3 year old child that wont talk

Canada
November 28, 2008 6:20pm CST
HI all i have a darling little girl that will be 3 in december. She sais some words but alot of her words are not even close. for princess she sais sasa? for raisans she sais rere? I dont understand y she wont talk she cant even say milk or drink. but othr words she sais completly right like mom nana her brother jayden. She sais alot of other words that are right but most are different. I am on a waiting list for a speech theripst for about a year now still waiting! Does anyone have this same problem or anyone have any ideas about how to get her talking?
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19 responses
• China
29 Nov 08
hi,first i think you should take your daught to see the doctor, if there is nothing wrong,you can set your mind at rest.My neighbor xiao ming, he also couldn't speak until he was three,and now he is very clever,so i think you need't worry.i hope your daughter will speak clearly soon.
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• Canada
30 Nov 08
Thanx we have been to the doctor and he said that she will speak when she is ready
@Cerego (117)
• United States
29 Nov 08
maybe she is just not ready. is she early 3 or is she closer to 4? My godbrother wasn't speaking very well when he was 3, he would say alot, complete sentences infact, it was just so hard to understand what he was saying sometimes, like, instead of sayin 'grandaddy', he would say 'doodaddy' I thought that maybe he had some sort of speech problem, but he just developed differently in his own way. He is 11 now and as smart as can be ( he's at a blue ribbon school) and he is always on the honor roll. But a speech therapist is a great idea, that could help alot, and get her talking better soon
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@Cerego (117)
• United States
29 Nov 08
oh, I see she is 2, and will be 3 next month. I don't think it is uncommon at all, very normal actually. but take all the precautions you can.
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@chevill (316)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
try to talk to her like an adult. don't try to talk to her like a baby, (baby talk) because talking to her too much may help her to say what's on her mind eventually, I have a 2 year old daughter and she speaks a lot as of now and she can complete a sentence too, i'm so afraid why is your 3 year old angel is hard to speak at her age. have you tried to consult her at her pedia? try to call her name and look if she will look at someone's calling her name, if she look back at you meaning she can hear you and then she can talk too, o maybe she's a late bloomer right?
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• Canada
30 Nov 08
Hi she does hear absolutly fine. She even hears whispers there is no problem in that area. ive been to the pediatriction and he said she will on her own time.
• United States
29 Nov 08
She could actually have a problem, she could have trouble speaking because she is developmentally delayed for whatever reason, she may have a hearing impairment and she can't hear things very well which means she can't hear the word to say the word. There could be so many different things wrong so I'd try in whatever way you can to get in with a speech therapist to have her evaluated. The earlier it's caught the quicker it can be fixed.
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• Canada
29 Nov 08
My daughter is not developmentally delayed she can say every word immagianble but she refuses to. its not cause she cant say the words she just dosnt want to. her hearing is fin that was checkd before.
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@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
29 Nov 08
It sounds like she needs to be evaluated by a speech therapist. Check with your school district and with the department of social services to see if there is any way to speed things up and get her in to see a therapist soon. Early intervention is key in getting her caught up and able to communicate effectively. Be a pain. Like they say-- the squeaky wheel gets the grease. In the mean time, look at her and have her look at you when you speak to her. Show her the shape and movement of your mouth when you speak, and ask her to copy you making some of the basic sounds. Show her how to move her tongue and her lips to make the sounds, and practice with her. In addition to that, lots of repitition and practice will help. Just pay attention to her cues and if she is getting upset or frustrated, stop. Don't push her to keep going if she's not into it because that will make her not want to try at all.
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• Canada
29 Nov 08
thanx for the advise i just left it alone and let them call me but i think i will contact them.
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@Pitgull (1523)
• United States
29 Nov 08
Do you baby talk your daughter? Baby talk is bad for kids.. "Goo-goo" and fake words teach kids the wrong things... Read to her, sing to her, talk with her, keep talking to her like she understands and carry on full conversations with her. Act like she is responding, coax her into communicating with you. Give her disney books, like Cinderella, that's how I learned to read about her age.... Some kids take time, but it's good you are seeking outside help, you want to be sure she's ready for the socialization that will be necessary in the upcoming years. Focus on it, keep her around people who talk, avoid the tv or mindless activities, keep her involved..... Good luck!! :)
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• Canada
29 Nov 08
I have always spoken adult words to her i dont believe in fake words. I read and sing to her alot. she will carry on a full conversation with me but some of the words are not right. i dont correct her because i was told that will make her stop trying. She even sings when i play the autoharp not the song im playing but she does sing she sings lalala elmo world and fifi fifi world. or jesus loves me just instead of jesus she sais sasus. I do let her watch tv but only interactive shows like elmo and dora and fifi it is good for her developement to watch some tv that is interactive.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
29 Nov 08
It might be that she cannot hear. Did you have her checked out by a doctor? Also is she developed in the other areas? Does she act like a regular two year old, or younger? If she is all right, then all she needs is practice. You have to talk slower around her and some words are not easy to say. For instance, I could not pronounce the th sound when I was that age. So here is something that might help. Just get her to look at you and get a picture book with the words you want her to learn. For instance, a book with a picture of a milk jug, and say "milk" slowly several times. Make it fun like a game. She just needs a little more practice.
@Zelda414 (149)
• United States
29 Nov 08
I agree you should check with a speech therapist, it could be something or it could be nothing but the quicker you do something about it and check it out the quicker you can correct it before she gets any older. You might also be able to check with the county or if her doctor to make sure there is nothing medical interferring with her speech as well.
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@mom4kids (658)
• Canada
29 Nov 08
Aliyah - This is the costume my daughter Aliyah came up with at her Strong Start Program she goes to.
I have a little girl who turned 3 in October and we are going through the same thing with her. She has lots of words, some of them right on, like the names of her brother and sisters and a lot of the colors, she's into colors right now, I hear the word purple about 100 times a day! But like your daughter there are a ton of words that are not even close. For example cereal is dirty, crazy. In Canada we have a Child Development Center. The lady from there told me that even if she isn't saying the word right or even close its still good because at least she is trying to say it. Just keep saying the word properly back to her. We too are on the waiting list for the speech theripist and in the meantime I was told that interactive play with her is very good. There is a free program in my town where you can go with your child. There is free play, lots of learning toys, puzzles, playdough, sand, painting and such. There is also gym time, story time, circle time and art. I am told that if you play with your child lots of opportunities arise to encourage talking and I have found that to be very true. Since taking her to the program, we go once a week, I have noticed an improvement in her speech. She says some more words, some proper some not but now has started to put 2 or 3 words together which she never did before. She still needs help with her speech and other people still have some trouble understanding her and like you I will be greatly glad when she can start with the speech theripist.
• Canada
1 Mar 09
HI thank you for your responce sorry it took me so long to get back to you! I stopped reading responces for this discussion simply because I was gettin mad everyone kept saying take her to the doctor or psycoligist. Dont they think that I have already taken her to the doctor lol. Well my daughter is now fully talking! There is nothing that she wont say. She still has some problems with the k and J sounds. But other than that she is doing great! Still havent seen a speech theripst Id say she will prob be 4 before she gets in! She wont need it then lol! Hope your daughter is talking to im sure she is! Take care!
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
24 Jun 09
A speech therapist is a great idea and maybe you can work at home with her. Get her some flash cards and work with her, when she gets so many right, give her a treat...it doesn't have to be cookies or anything, maybe a new coloring book or a little toy...something to encourage her to keep working at it. It sounds like she just needs a little extra help on her speech. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
@MSKAYLLA (27)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Bet after she turns three she starts talking and wont stop...ask her to say what she want exsample- milk say it to her..you want milk repeat a couple times do this with everything pretty soon she will start saying everything!
@piya84 (2591)
• India
2 Dec 08
hiii nthing is wrong ..i know one child same as ur baby girl...she began to talk late around 4 years...nthing much serious..just keep interacting with her daily...few child are slow learners..its quit natural thing .
@PrarieStyle (2495)
• United States
30 Nov 08
I have heard of this with a couple of children. She might be concentrating on learning something else instead. She might just feel as if she can communicate just fine so she doesn't want to learn how to speak right now. I knew of a little boy who had a hearing problem and didn't speak. Have you had her hearing checked? Does it seem like she can hear ok?
@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
30 Nov 08
I knew someone who had almost the same problem. The child was talking but not the words he was supposed to. So they took him to a speech therapist and it made wonders. Maybe you should try one.Proffesionals often see things different than we ordinary people see, and they have methods to help . Maybe nothing is wrong, maybe it's just a delay...I really do believe that a proffesional check won't hurt.
@dodo19 (33316)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Nov 08
As some have mentioned, try talking to her like you might to a child of the age of 3 to 5. If you use words that parents use when they have new born babies, this may have an effect on any child, like your daughter. Try this for a few months. And, if this time has past and you still don't see any improvement, then I would definitely say that you should bring your daughter to a therapist or something and see what he/she has to say.
@ammu007 (81)
• India
29 Nov 08
me too feel that uu have to check with a speech therapist... do it at the right time dont wait ...
@Theresam (1181)
• United States
29 Nov 08
I am not sure if you are in the United States but at 3 year old she can be evaluated by the local school district by a speech therpist and they will probably put her in preschool as well. She very well maybe a late talker but a mother's instinct is very powerful. Also check out http://www.apraxia-kids.org/ I have also found baby bumblebee vidoes good for helping little ones talk.
@anirc750310 (3424)
• Romania
29 Nov 08
I suppose you went to see a doctor or a psychologist. My boy talked very late, almost at 2.5 years old. At the age of 2 he only mumble, nothing you could understand. Even now he is almost 5 year in february, he does ot speak clearly, even he can he prefer to speak badly, as he begin to talk. If there are no medical problem she will begin to speak, for sure. You just need to repeat words with her, need some encouragemnet. She could be lazzy or she is not too confident on her capabilities. Does she walk on er knees? It is told kids who walked on their knees talk earlier. i wish you good luck and for me too because I have to give birth again and I hope this child to be more mature then the first one and talk a little bit earlier. See u!
@mokbul (616)
• Singapore
29 Nov 08
It could be a syndrome that affects pronouncing correctly certain words only. But I thin 3 years is too early to know if it is the particular problem. Brain's motor section signals to tongue and vocal cord to pronounce the sound a person desires. The best is to discuss with a speech therapist, you may check some related websites, which would probably give very good information.