At what age do you prefer....

@noelcruz (324)
Philippines
November 29, 2008 11:09pm CST
I got married when I was 26, I told to my self that at this age, I have to establish a family so that before I reach the age of 50, I do have a son or daughter that hopefully reach college or vocational degree. I do see head of family that is still working hard eventhough they are over 50 because some of their sons/daughters are still studying, some even in elementary level. How about you fellow mylotters, at what age do you prefer to get married?
4 people like this
35 responses
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
30 Nov 08
Hello noelcruz! I also told myself that I will marry at the age of 30. I said it because I want to enjoy first the life being single. However, through God's fate I am 22 now and I am already married. I never regretted it anyway because I married the only man I love and love me so much too.
3 people like this
@noelcruz (324)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
thanks for the response. Happy mylotting!!
• China
30 Nov 08
Hello noelcruz I would to get married when i am 30 years.i just a little afraid after get married,then have to have children..hehe hmm just a little bit dislike children,though... how aobut you? do you like kids?
2 people like this
@suzzy3 (8357)
30 Nov 08
You don't have to have kids you know.
@bellebads (741)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
i got married when i 'm already 29 years old i somewhat regret marrying this age because now that i'm 31 i still don't have kids. they said that when you reach 30 years old you'll having a hard time getting pregnant. i'm worried that i may not have kids or if i do have i will not be able to support their education because me and my husband are too old to work for them. i just hope i still watch my kids grow and see my grand children when i get older.
2 people like this
@noelcruz (324)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
thanks for your thoughts. I think you need a lot rest and consult an OB. Happy mylotting!!
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
Well I think 26 is somewhat a fair age to start a family. I don't think it is the best age, because that age is the time to grow a career. Before I answer this question, let me share you my background. I am a single mom and I had a kid when everyone was busy trying to get their first jobs. When I was still in high school, I had already set an age to get myself married. My preferred age then was at 25 year. Now I am beyond 30s and I have not seen myself married. Now, I don't have any preferred age, because I am past that time. I am prepared to meet somebody though. Somehow I got my life planned out so that I would not be working too hard when I don't qualify for work anymore.
2 people like this
@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
When I was younger I thought I will get married around the age twenty four to twenty five. Right now I'm already twenty eight and I'm still not married, hopefully me and my boyfriend settle down before we reach thirty so that we can watch our children grow and have their own family and hopefully even our future grandchildren.
2 people like this
• India
30 Nov 08
I wll first will have to establish myself very well and then only i will think about my marriage and other things and i think it will be around 28 for me to get marrie,because i think at that age only i will be fully established and that would be the right time for me to get married..happy mylotting..
2 people like this
@eynjel05 (444)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
For me, I am not depending my age for the time that I will get marrried. Well as the oldest daugter in the family, I prefer to get married and have my own family when I already fulfill my duties and responsibilities with my parents and two younger brothers. When I already did that, then that would be the time that I'll be haveing my own family. When will be that to happen? I do not know yet:-)
2 people like this
• United States
30 Nov 08
I prefer to get married at whatever age I think it would be appropriate with the person who I truly love, and I know they truly love me back. Time does not factor in on me in such ways. I would prefer to have one successful marriage than five before I found my "true love".
1 person likes this
@noelcruz (324)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
thanks for your thoughts and happy mylotting!!
• Qatar
30 Nov 08
hi there for me, the early the better hehe...what i mean is, if you are ready and stable, why not getting marry. i agree with you in that sense; at least b4 reaching the age of 50, u can enjoy your life to the fullest.... cos u already establish the best for your family happy lotting!
1 person likes this
@suzzy3 (8357)
30 Nov 08
It all depends when you meet your life partner.Marrage os not the end of life you can still go out and have fun I got married a thirty six have a son doing his exams at school and doing really well bless him,some can cope with marrage at an early age others wait ,and others don't bother.It does not suit everyone.Kids are hard work but I feel with my previous experience of life.Both my husband and I feel we can give him the guidence as for the teenage years I worked as a cook in a busy kitchen so being shouted at is something I can cope with and indeed get used to ,it brings a whole new meaning if you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen.I know plenty of people over fifty with young families but they are finacially stable so they can give up work and look after the children,when you are young you may have more energy.In most cases the parents work around the clock and use nurserys ect, as do some of the older parents .I might add.We used to take our son all over the place as a child to the zoo,beach,toddlers,pre-school,playcentres and we played with him as well, over the park and all sorts of places and enjoyed everymoment of him .We could give him time and financal support with out me working.We did not plan to marry fall in love and have our son,it just took a bit longer to find each other than most.Mind you I could have done with the energy levels of a twenty year old sometimes.
1 person likes this
@eddie72 (37)
• China
30 Nov 08
i'm twenty-six,the same as you,still single.However i want to seeking a wife to be married rightnow,it is not so real.The problem is not you wanna do it when and how,it's whether you are able to do that.Is everything settle down?Is your true love coming?So many x-things..
1 person likes this
@maximax8 (28860)
• United Kingdom
30 Nov 08
I think that many people don't know when they will meet a lady or man that they wish to marry. Even if they do things might not work out. Sometimes a person marries once and then years later gets divorced. In the ideal situation a couple would marry the lady at 25 and the man 27 perhaps. Then thy would have two children a girl and a boy.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
I think mid 20s is the ideal age for marriage. I got married recently at 28 and hoping to have kids soon, so just like you, I will still be able to live a long time a see them grow up and have families of their own
1 person likes this
• India
30 Nov 08
I feel there is no particular right age to get married, but one should be mature enough to take the responsibility well. Only then will he/she also be able to enjoy marital bliss to the fullest. One, he/she should be financially secure/ independent, and that would have come only after finishing up with ones education. I think this would be very important towards raising kids - as you would naturally like to settle down & start a family once you get married - after a little time. Be it a love marriage, or an arranged one - which is quite the case in India & other traditional countries, one should wait till these things are fulfilled before taking the plunge. Personally, that is what I feel. I got engaged at 24 & married at 25 & I feel that was quite perfect for me! We would start planning for kids after a years time, having taken these 2-3 years to understand eachother & settle down in life.
1 person likes this
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
Anyone can decide to get married when they find a suitable partner. What is not sure is if they will be able to raise a family adequately. Things are expensive these days and education is one big expense. Good luck!
• China
30 Nov 08
i love to get marry after my 30th,for i think at that time,probably i can have my own businese,and i will have got enouth money to support my family
@noelcruz (324)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
Weel good luck and thanks for the response. Happy mylotting!!
@taripres (1499)
• United States
1 Dec 08
Well, I was already married at 21 and divorced by 27! My plan was to get married at 26, but things happen; I never had the opportunity to get things on track. I'm now paying for it, not blaming anyone but myself though! Rushing into things, not having a chance to breath, then life just took it's toll on a marriage that was set up to fail! I want to be married again, but after I get my life back together. For now, I'm just living for my child!! Taripre$
• China
1 Dec 08
i got married when i was 28,so many friend tell me should married no more 30 years.if you married so late,you will delay your sons/daughters learn and grow up.i am so happy that my daughter 10 years old,when i am 50 years,my daughter will be reach 22 years old,that's the great thing.
• United States
1 Dec 08
I was always "anti-marriage"... not the love and commitment side but the government involvement side. "Why do They care who I love? And if we decide not to be together, why do I have to explain it to Them"... Then, somehow I ended up blissfully and legally married lol. (I was 28 btw.) And, I am still blissfully married.
@smiley83 (1535)
• Malaysia
1 Dec 08
hey, well i will hopefully get married when i'm done with school..i still have another year and a half...i do have someone, but i'm not ready to get married at this age of 24..i have no problem of being engaged but not married though ^_* smiley,