My husbands a big kid!

I don't really have this problem, because I also play video games. So instead of having arguments that my husband is playing games instead of spending time with me, we both play the video games together and it is time we enjoy spending together. We don't have kids, so that's not an issue. But you could try asking your husband if he could find a game that the kids could play with him, and that way they could spend some time together with something they could all enjoy. You could try playing with him, too. If he refuses to play with anyone else and his gaming is keeping him from being with the family...well, personally I would ditch him. But you could try counseling or something. As far as having to give detailed instructions for everything...well, I don't know how to fix that problem. I've had to do the same thing with my husband frequently. I think the problem is that most people still assume that men don't do housework, so parents don't teach their boys how to do anything. When I met my husband, he didn't know how to cook, clean, do laundry, or anything. I think it just takes a lot of time to teach men these things that they should have learned as children and didn't. My husband is much better now in the kitchen, although I still have to remind him about common-sense things sometimes. It's hard to be patient when it's so obvious to you, and he just doesn't seem to get it! So you're not alone with that issue, at least. I suppose the best thing to do is just keep trying, and hope that he'll learn eventually. Good luck!