She wont' go on the potty!!

United States
December 1, 2008 2:55pm CST
it's driving us crazy. Our 2 year old daughter will sit on the potty all day long but once she actually has to go she won't go on the potty. She will freak out for a diaper. I don't expect her to poop on the potty yet but at least pee. She's done it before. How I can we get her to actually go on it??? Do we just wait till she's ready? How long will that take? They only make diapers so big!!
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
1 Dec 08
I wouldn't worry about it. Sometimes they just need to take a break trying. If you think she gets it enough and just doesn't want to do it you could try a reward system. I know some who have used stickers. That didn't work for my kids. My first one was easy to train. My second one was more stubborn. We used tootsie rolls with her. Every time she went on the potty she got a tootsie roll. She also preferred to use a seat insert on the big potty rather than sitting on her own little potty. I would just let her go at her own pace. The more they are pushed they usually tend to take longer.
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
1 Dec 08
I would talk to her about it. Even though she is only 2, children can understand and take in a great of what is said to them. Tell that she is starting to become a big girl and big girls don't wear diapers. Big girls go to the potty. Let her see you going to the toilet so she knows it is what everyone does. Maybe even say mummy is going to do wees on the big toilet do you want to do wees as well? Get her some really special knickers that she will like wearing as well and tell her after she has done wees on the potty she can put them on. Perhaps even try a new potty or a seat extension on the big toilet. I had both my children toilet trained by the age of 2. The second one was actually closer to 18 months. All I did was talk to them a lot about using it and place them on it when I knew they would be close to going. I have heard that the reward charts work well but have never used them myself. I have also heard about stickers that sit inside the potty and change colour or reveal a picture when they get wet. Good luck I am sure it wall all just fall into place for you
• United States
1 Dec 08
its ok, dont force her, i have a 3 yrs old son, will turn 3 this dec 20, yet he knows how to pee on the toilet bowl but not to poop on his potty, he get scared, which is weird, but i think he is scared seeing his dirt lol, but soon really i need to train him so soon, before diaper price get high lol
@Anne18 (11029)
1 Dec 08
I wouldn't worry about her not using the potty. My twins weren't toliet trained until three weeks before they were three years old, and I only did it then as they were going ot nursery when they were threee years old and wouldn't take them in nappies. Perhaps your daughter isn't ready yet. Just leave the potty out so she can see it and perhaps get a toy potty and show your daughter her dollies using the toilet and also let your daughter take the potty into the toilet when you go into the toilet so she can see what goes on in the toilet. Hope this helps a bit, I'm sure you will get loads of advice.
@my2boys (821)
• United States
1 Dec 08
All children are different. You have to wait until they are ready. My son was completely potty trained a couple of months after he turned 2. I have a friend whose son is 5 months younger than mine and he wasnt potty trained until he was almost four. Now he is almost 5 and still wears pull ups at night. It just depends on the child. They will go when they are ready.
1 Dec 08
Dont give her the option of using a diaper when shes freaking out and needs to go set her on the potty. Follow her around with it if need be. Alternatively make a game of it. Make a star chart and for every time she uses it right put a star on the chart, when she does it right ten times in a row make her her favourite dinner or desert, if she does it right all week give her a treat. If she dosnt do it right take a star away. Thats just my humble opinion anyway.