1. someone who loves you 2. someone you love: who will you choose? or will you?

Philippines
December 2, 2008 9:09am CST
I was just wondering... I was once told by a friend that if given the situation, I should choose the one who love me. He reasoned out that he is now regretting choosing the one he loved the most. He is now trying to get an annulment. However, I think the girl chose the one who loves her. In the end, its either they didn't try their bests, or they simply hoped for the best to work for them. I do understand his point. However, if given the situation, knowing myself, I'd go for that someone I love. Even if I have to love him secretly. I have been used to loving and giving without expecting anything in return. It is hard and painful, and I don't know why, but I am not the kind of person who can gamble on what I truly feel. I can't deceive myself. The only thing I can do is to wish them happiness, and be happy when they are. I can actually say that I don't have to choose. But knowing myself, I know I will also still continue loving that person I love. My friends told me that its just poetic talk. But this is me, this is how I talk, and this is how I think. I was raised this way, and I was raised to be open minded. So I have been wondering, what do you guys think? Who will you choose? Why? Is it worth choosing any of the two? Or is it a lot worthy to not choose?
2 responses
• India
2 Dec 08
I will surely choose the someone i love..since i dont really see a point in someone who love me..i will have to like the girl and her and her character and all other all other things..i just cant be loving a girl because of the fact that she loves me and i really have to love her..it has to come from my soul and not by her words..happy mylotting..
• Philippines
2 Dec 08
I am glad to hear that from a guy. :) I've talked to my friends and they cant understand me. I understand them though...after all, they just want to be loved back. My exlover chose his new girlfriend over me, reasoning out that she loves him. We are miles apart, so I also understand that what he felt for me weakened as we are far from each other. My friends keep telling me to move on. Its kinda hard though since we've been together for four years. I kinda envy him that he was able to move on that fast. But then again, I dont blame him. I understand that there were factors brought upon by chances and choices. My friends now refuse to talk to me, after hearing me say I choose to move on, even if it means continue loving him, because I know this is not gonna be easy. Specially that I'll be moving there, too, in a few months. Its just that I cant deceive myself, I find it hard to lie about it. I know they will be reassured if I say otherwise, but that will be lying. Anyway, it is nice to hear a guy say he is willing to fight for what he feels. :) This is the first time for me to find someone not blinded by practicality. :)
• India
3 Dec 08
Hey flance i also feel that you should move on..its good that you forget him..since he has himself thrown you just throw him out of your life and dont think about anyone else..there would surely be man waiting for in some part of the world..he would surely come to you some day and would hold on your hands for your life time and i would like to hear from you about your story in brief..since i think we have a striking co-ordination in this thing..happy mylotting..
• New Zealand
3 Dec 08
I will choose someone who loves me. Reasons : - The person whom I love, but he/she doesn't love me. So he/she will not be so sad if I did not choose him/her. But if I don't take care of a person who love me, He will be much sad. So here I think the person who doesn't like or love you will not be expecting much from you whereas, there will always a lot of expectations from the person who loves you a lot. So I will definitely chose the one who loves me.
• Philippines
12 Dec 08
I do understand your point. And thank you for such honest response. Of course, you also have to make sure that you've learned to love the person who loves you, or else it will also be unfair to that person.