call it quits or put on your boxing gloves !!!!!

@ronnyb (6120)
Jamaica
December 2, 2008 8:34pm CST
You call her every night but she call you sometimes and when she does ,she is distracted and asking you to repeat every other word .You call her every night but most times you get the answering machine which means she isnt there or she is not answering .Neverthe less you always leave a message to call you which she rarely ever does and when she does she is always in a hurry to end the conversation or she has nothing to say .You call her everynight but when you do get through to her you do all the talking and when is her time ,its bouts of uninterrupted silence .You invite her out allmost every night but she always has something better to do and when you do go out ,she rarely eat or frequently asks to be excused to go to the powder room or answer that dam_n annoying phone of hers. The dilemma is do you call it a night or take blame for not being interesting enough.Is this an opportunity to pull out all the stops,put on your boxing gloves an fight for your woman ?.Could you have done more to make your relationship more interesting ?.Should you be taking her to more exotic places .Should you be more forcefull ,is it that you are too gentle? Should you go to her workplace ,force yourself in bringing a bunch of flowers ,a box of chocolate ,a singing band and go down on all four and beg her to go out with you and never leave until she does.Maybe a trip to Aspen and similar luxuries will do the trick ? OR MAYBE SHE JUST DOESNT LIKE YOU SO QUIT ,WHAT DO YO THINK ?
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@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
3 Dec 08
AS I see it...based upon what you say here....your problem is not her but it is you. Why do I say that? Go back and read what you have said. You are smothering her in every way possible. Call her every night? Ask her out every night? She has no break. You have left no mystery in your relationship. What you have done is exactly the opposite of what you should have. By making yourself scarce in the beginning of the relationship would have attracted her because you would be mysterious. She would know very little about you and nothing gets a woman's interest more than for you to be hard to get. You have worn her out. If she were into you....there would be no doubt in your mind. She would be calling you and you would hear it in her voice. There is a saying I have heard and it is so true......give her the gift of missing you. It may be too late for that but you have to admit she not only can't miss you she has no choice. You are trying way too hard and it sounds like you have way over done it. One thing you have to know. Woman do not want to be responsible of hurting anyone and so she does all she can to tell you she is not interested without actually telling you but your not listening. My advice to you is to stop calling....stop asking her out.....step back and wait for her to call you. Good chance she may not but then what have you really lost if she doesn't? What you are doing is destroying any change you ever had with her. The way it is now if you try to do even more you will be pouring gasoline on the fire. IT WILL NOT WORK. Give her space man. It is a big gamble on your part but one thing is for sure what you are doing is all wrong. Stop it and do something different.
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• United States
3 Dec 08
And get over the boxing glove mentality. You have done this to yourself so it is up to you to change it. If she is not into you then learn from this and move on. If you keep pushing this you will loose without question.
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@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
6 Dec 08
Maybe you are right ,maybe space is the best thing in such a relationship,mind you I have been in few realtionships where I gave the person space and it did work out well for me.This is just an hypothetical situation though
@suzzy3 (8358)
4 Dec 08
From a womans point of view she is either playing hard to get or she does not really care the way you do,if I was you I would cool it and see what happens if she cannot see a good bloke when she sees one it is her fault,don't what ever you do show yourself up in public,she probably is just enjoying the attention at your expense.Cool it and take some other nice girl out.
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