The "High" Life

@Cerego (117)
United States
December 2, 2008 9:30pm CST
I have this friend, my best friend of 8yrs actually, and she is always under the influence of marijuana these days. She has smoked since about 7yrs ago but Since maybe six months ago, or so,she's high Whenever we talk on the phone, whenever I go over her house, just ALL the time. Some people may not have a problem with this, and I know it is not illegal in every country, however it is illegal here in America. I hate that she feels she has to be high all the time, I think that maybe something is missing in her life and she tries to replace it with the weed. We used to talk all the time but because of this, we don't talk as much anymore, I just feel we have less and less in common. I can't stand that she likes to get high so much because she is SO intelligent (and she says alot of dumb stuff when she's high), but I won't quit being her friend, we've been through too much together for me to end our friendship over this. but I just don't know what to do. It frustrates me. Any advice?
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@sameroad (3180)
• United States
3 Dec 08
like you said, she might be missing something. try talking to her and telling her how you feel about her smoking the weed. I smoke and when i get depressed or something is wrong i will sometimes smoke more. i was for a while there staying high just like your friend. all i wanted to do was smoke weeed because i was so unhappy and i all i wanted was some happiness so i smoke the weed. because it gives me that happiness. it makes me all giggle and just carefree. its a wonderful feeling... maybe thats what your friend is using it for too if shes smoking it a lot more then she used too. that to me says there is a problem. when someone has been smoking for that long.. it doesn't make sense for them to start smoking a lot more, does it? in less something was bothering her. anyway, good luck to you and your friend.
@Cerego (117)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Thanks. yeah she smokes alot more now, especially since she started dating her current boyfriend. She smoked before him, but since he came along, they are both just high all the time. Not that I'm blaming him, because she smoked before him and can get her own weed anyway, but he does definitely contribute. I just want her to stop.
@Cerego (117)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Oh, I have tried talking to her, but she doesn't seem to take me or anyone else seriously. Its that same old "Weed has never hurt anybody, its natural, thats what its here for" line.
@sameroad (3180)
• United States
3 Dec 08
the problem sounds like it is her boyfriend then... if it started smoking more when he came around.. and thats always a touchy subject.. and it can be very hard trying to talk to someone about smoking.. maybe you should try video taping her without her knowing when shes high.. let her see herself when shes like that... maybe it'll help her see the side you see.
@hmkoct5 (2067)
• United States
3 Dec 08
It sounds like she has a really serious problem. It's moved beyond recreational usage to necessity. Can you hold an intervention for her? I know that can be very tough emotionally, but ultimately you are trying to save her life. You can't be nice in this sitation. You have to get her to see what she is doing. Best of luck!
@Cerego (117)
• United States
3 Dec 08
Thank you
@raven66 (335)
• Canada
3 Dec 08
As long as you let her know that you care for her.... and that you told her how you feeel about it all.. than I really think there is little else YOU can do.. really if she wants to change its only up to her.. Many people go through a long stage and when they get older they "REALIZE".. that it THEMSELVES".. that must change if see a NEED to. Remember ..your freind will probably keep doing what she wants to do until SHE is ready to change anything that she believes is not really worthwhile doing any longer. Most of us are like this.
• India
3 Dec 08
some people purposely do it, without any problem in there life, they simply want to do it, they want to do some dumb stuff, and they later they could blame it on the weed.. take the example of "britney spears,paris hilton,lindsay lohan", whats missing in there life, they have everything.. by doing this they only want to get more attention, thats why they do it
@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
3 Dec 08
If she went from casually smoking, to constantly smoking then it sounds like there's something wrong. She could be smoking to escape something, or like you said to replace something she feels she's missing. Talk to her. Be honest with her. Try not to come off like you're judging her, but let her know that you care about her and you're concerned. Tell her that you don't mind casual smoking every now and then, but it bothers you when she's constantly high. Maybe make plans to hang out where she's sober, and then let her know that later she can smoke when she's not around you. Many people smoke a lot because they're bored. So maybe try and get her to get out and do stuff. Plan some activities that the two of you can do together.