upside down

United States
December 4, 2008 2:52pm CST
My life feels like it is turning upside down so fast. All I do is fight with my 9 1/2 year old son about everything. I think he wants to go live with his dad as a way of getting out of having to do chores and disipline. Little does he know things would be a lot stricter there. His dad wont tollerate his behavior. I'm just really tired and maybe it would be good for him to go. I don't want him to as I have been the only one in his life for the last 9 1/2 years. He met his dad over the summer for the first time. He made a comment to me today that he would be the only kid there. He fights with his 4 year old sister all the time. He picks on her and is generally just mean to her. He has a lot of anger and I have an appointment for him at a counseling service tomorro. He has been through a lot but I still expect him to do the things that he is suposed to do. He got suspended from school yesterday and he will not own up to his actions. I tell him that when people do things in life they have to pay the consequence. I am in no way perfact. I have done things that I have got in trouble for, but he always says "I didn't do anything" I can watch him dump a glass of water on the floor and ask him why he did it his response is "I didn't do it". This bothers me a great deal. What do I do. Should I let him go be with his father for the rest of the school year?
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trillan_20
@trillan_20 (183)
• Canada
10 Dec 08
You definately sound like you have had enough. I think that if you feel that living with his father will benefit him in any way, then let him go. You aren't wrong in what you are telling him, he is just being defiant. And you also have to think about your daughter and how impressionable they are at 4 years old. Dont think for a second that she doesnt see what her big brother is doing and how he is acting. He is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong, and old enough to be punished for his wrong-doings, but she isnt quite yet. So as long as his father will not let him get away with acting the way he does and will teach him proper values then let him go for a while. Father-son bonding wont hurt, it will probably better him if anything.
Theresam
@Theresam (1177)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I have been having a very tough time with my 9.5 yr old son this week and he had in school supsension for 1 day this week. he is AAHD and I am really thinking he may be bi-polar. He is grounded into his room he has lost his radio, legos (prized possion) and his DS and any computer time. We do have a behavior plan at school and this is the first time all school year he has acted up. He had a better day on Friday so I am hoping with the reinforcements we have (we have reset up a dollar a day for being good at school and 25 cents in the morning and 50 cents in the afternoon)
mokbul
@mokbul (616)
• Singapore
6 Dec 08
I have recently discussed a topic called sibling rivalry, specially in till finishing of teen age. At this parents has to be b\very careful to monitor his children or sibling rivalry and guide them minimum to resolve their issue so that none is victimized, none gets preference over others. This helps building healthy life stage to youth child for the later independent life when he or she will ne required to handle much moue complicate rivalry of adults