Do you find it hard to socialize with other people?

@annierose (10935)
Philippines
December 4, 2008 6:25pm CST
It is unavoidable that we experience up and downs in our relationship with other people. But even if these happen, the feelings of satisfaction and security that we derive from interacting with other people outweigh some problems. For a number of people, specially the teenagers find socializing a persistent problem.Some are rejected by others. While some are ignored and neglected by other groups.It even appears that some people have many friends but nevertheless feel alone and unhappy. Do you find it hard to socialize with other people? If this were so, I think one should pause awhile and find out why he don't have friendships that he can treasure.For one thing, he may have missed out an opportunities to learn social skills that will be important throughout his life. Especially important are the skills needed to begin and maintain social relationships and to solve social conflicts. Teenagers who lack ongoing peer involvement may also miss opportunities to build a sense of social self-confidence. They may develop little faith in their own abilities to achieve socialization goals and thus, are easily affected by the normal conflicts in social interaction.Once this happens, they may be greatly affected in the future as they socialize with people of their own age.
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• United States
5 Dec 08
It took me a long time to be able to socialize with others maybe because I grew up so timid and shy. I never had confidence in myself up until I was in college my socialization skills developed. I mingled with different kinds of people by facilitating. It was then that I have learned how to interact well. I am really glad I have overcome my shyness. Even now that I considered myself to have developed I wait for other people to talk to me before I talk to them. I have limited friends here because in a new place I tend to feel really shy. I would rather talk to my online friends. I see to it that my children can interact with other people well much more that I do. I am glad they are doing well here and have coped up. They can socialize with people much much better than me.;-)
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@annierose (10935)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
It is really difficult how to socialize if you grew up having a shy attitude toward other people. It takes me a long time also before I learn how to make move in socializing voluntarily with others. Thanks for responding.
@underdogtoo (9606)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
I am not good with people. I do know how to deal with them when I have to. Finding good friends is a difficult thing. Sometimes I attract the wrong kind who always get in trouble and I have to be there and bail them out when they do. I have gotten into fights because of my friends. People are difficult. Cheers!!
@annierose (10935)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
I agree with you regarding with meeting different people. There are so many people whom we can meet with varying attitudes.While some can be our friends some can be our enemy also.Thanks for the response.
@kkthom3 (279)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I have found it hard to socialize for my entire. When I was younger I used to be very shy and I had friends but being introduced to other people was always difficult for me. Now that I am older I have much more experience and maturity and I am not as shy, but I still don't really like socializing with people. I don't think that I missed something important in my youth. I am really just very introverted and I don't like to talk all that much to people that I don't know. I think that friends are very important to be happy, but even without an over abundance of friends a person can still be quite happy and satisfied in their life. Happy myLotting!
@annierose (10935)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
I find it hard too socializing with people. When I was a kid I just make friends with cousins. So hard for me to socialize with others. But as of now I learned the importance of it. Thanks for the response.
@munhozmib (3738)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
6 Dec 08
Hello, annierose. I am a teenager. And I do not have trouble socializing. You know, it is not something that you should force yourself into. It just happens. When you put it in your head, like: "I am going to talk to that girl!", then it gets hard. Some kind of barrier. But it is not a barrier from the other person. It is a barrier that yourself create, which keeps you from being comfortable. It is just because of your intentions. Now, if you want to talk to somebody just for the fun, then there is no problem. I can go and make friends. I have a lot of friends, and I do not think I am lonely at all. There are a few ones in which I trust, while I don't trust in others. But I have no problems at all in socializing. Respectfully, Munhozmib.