Frustrated

United States
December 4, 2008 7:42pm CST
I am losing my mind quickly trying to get my 7 year old son, who has ADHD, to learn how to read. We have been working on spelling words aka "Word Wall" words for a week now and today he had a small quiz, well he got 2 wrong. He got them wrong because he put the letters in the wrong order, even though he knows the proper spelling. Like the word "When" he spelled it "hwen" and the word "going" he spelled "gonig". When we got in the car I asked him how to spell the words and he spelled them correctly. We get home and suddenly he forgets how to spell the dang words. He was in a level 4 reading group at the beginning of the school year and now he has gone backwards to a level 3!! I don't have the patience to try and help him. I have gone to bed crying over this. He was in young 5 Kindergarten at age 5, regular Kindergarten at age 6 and now 1st grade at age 7. He is a year behind and he is slowing falling even further behind. The teacher won't help and neither will his therapist. I am at my wits end. I also have a 3 year old who just WILL not go on the toilet. He would rather crap his pants than sit on the potty. I've tried taking him every 1/2 hour and giving treats and all of that good stuff but nothing is working. I have NO help from my husband and I'm a stay-at-home mom so I'm ALWAYS with the kids. I'm losing my mind fast. I yell and yell because I'm frustrated. I've started overeating to deal with the stress I am under which makes me feel even worse. How do I get my 7 year old to read and my 3 year old to use the potty? I NEED HELP!!!
2 responses
@italysmom (313)
• United States
5 Dec 08
make the lessons a game... and.. i would go to the school board.. go above the teacher... it is their job to help with his success in school.. keep going up the ladder until they agree to help you.. infact please look up your laws... if your child is diagnosed with adhd... it is their legal obligation to make his learning easier.. lol.. i am trying to remember the name of the law.. but.. anyway.. look it up.. and make your dr help you!!!.. or change drs... as far as a lazy husband.. i understand that... its not a good thing!!! also from what it looks like... you m ight want to have your son tested for dyslexia.. so that they can retrain his mind now at a young age... infact... there are several dyslexic children miss diagnosed with adhd... because... it would be horrible frustrating to see things backwards.... on the potty training thing... dont worry so much... it will come when it comes... but... there are books that you can read to your child to make it seem like an adventure to use the potty... there are many of them... it would save you alot of agrivation..lol.. i understand as far as your yelling and all.. your in a very frustrating time it is fairly understandable.. but... it makes things worse.. the child feels the anger.. the frustration... and acts even worse??? thatshow my daughter does anyway... see your dr.. you might need meds... to help your nerves.. find local support groups... make play dates... anything to get out and let your children blow off some steam.. and you get a slight break!!!! God Bless you and Good Luck
• United States
7 Dec 08
Thank you so much! I was on anti depressants before but I can't afford them plus my son's medication so it's him first. I was thinking he may be dyslexic too so that is something I will bring up to his doctor on Monday.
@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 08
I hope you will be patience with him. I don't know about training to potty yet since my boy is still small but here in Malaysia there is a series about training problem children in which it helps to discipline them. If it is too much for you, ask your husband for a day out and spend time relaxing. You must take it easy. ok?