How would you feel if you give a present

December 5, 2008 10:22am CST
How would you feel if you give a present or gift to someone and they don't even say thank you? And if they say "thank you" but you look at their face and eyes they don't seem appreciate it? Or they don't like it at all and for you it came from your heart and it was one of the precious gifts you could ever give to someone you cared. It happened to me just today! Have it happened to you? If not, how would you feel?
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• Philippines
5 Dec 08
It didn't happen to me since I am the one who receives gift and sometimes not often that I forgot to say thank you. The difference for me is that, once I receive any gift I really appreciate and thankful for it because I felt that I am special. It is just that I forgot to say thank you to the one who gave. Awful huh! There people that they don't want to receive any gifts because they don't want to give either.
5 Dec 08
Wow, I haven't meet such kind of people yet who don't want to receive because they don't want to give, some people I met were people who likes to receive gifts but don't care to give and don't even say, thanks. How can you forget to say thanks when you are actually receiving a gift, sounds impossible to me. Maybe if you don't like the gift you tend to forget to say thank you. Well, people have different attitudes so that's my thoughts.
@eynjel05 (444)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
We do have the same experience. I just can't forget that day. I gave a gift to one of my cousin. Knowing that she loves to collect stickers, I bought her lots of stickers of different kinds. Then on the christmas eve, we opened our gifts togeher,suddenly when I looked at her after opening my gift she maked face.I really thought that she still love stickers that time. So I really learned from tha experience. The next time I give gift, I usually ask that person what she/he would like to recieve just to avoid the same mistake.Happy posting!
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5 Dec 08
Oh that's a good idea to ask them before giving a present I didn't think of that idea before, thanks for sharing! Yes, when it comes to disappointments it's not really easy to forget and sometimes I try to avoid to see the person's face again. I am not that mean but just to try to forget the hurt feelings then I will be fine afterwards.
• United States
5 Dec 08
I am so sorry this happened to you. I know how hard it is to be in your position, I've been there. I know how sad and disappointed you and you have every right to feel that way. When someone doesn't show appreciation or say Thank you for what we have given from our heart it really hurts. We can't control their actions though. But we can prevent it from happening again...at least with the same person. I personally would not give that person any other present...ever. Just give them a card from here on out, if you feel you should give them something. Again, I am sorry you are hurting and that "they" didn't see how much love you put into your gift.
5 Dec 08
Yes, you're right. I would never ever give a present to that person again, he is very lucky to have receieve that present from me, I didn't even give it somebody else because I thought it would be better for him. I was just disappointed and how I wanted to get my present back and give it to someone else but it would be an insult for him. Thanks for sharing.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I know how you feel. My mother in law is the same way. I worked hard on their christmas gifts last year. Money was tight so I tried my best with what we could spend. I made her up a gift basket of good smelling lotions and sprays and stuff like that. She could barely fake her like of it. She has done the same thing to me before too.
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5 Dec 08
Thanks for the comfort, you're so nice! I agree with you, even when money is too tight we still do our best to give a present to somebody we love and care, but sad to see them when they don't like it. I appreciate every presents and cards I receive from anybody, it's the thought that touches my heart, atleast it means that somebody cares.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
5 Dec 08
It has happened to me before. I gave someone a gift, but she didn't thank me and she didn't seem to appreciate the gift at all. My first reaction was sadness and I felt like it had been a waste of time. When I receive a gift, the gift in itself is not the most important thing, what really matters to me is the fact that someone wanted to give me something and that they spent time picking out a gift for me. When someone doesn't appreciate my gift, I get sad at first, but I try to focus on giving. Giving is a way to express my love for someone, and no one can prevent me from giving, not even people who don't seem to appreciate their gifts. Someone once said to me: "The real gift is not the thing which you have bought, wrapped up and given to a person. No, the real gift is your willingness to give" I agree with those words but I tend to forget them, when I get disappointed and when I feel that someone didn't appreciate my gift.
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5 Dec 08
Thanks for the nice words of response! Yes, I agree with the saying, that the real gift is not the thing which you have bought, wrapped up and given to person. However some people expect to receive a present that they wish for and wanted so much, but even them they can't afford to get it and they are expecting it from someone instead. So when they receive a gift that they don't like they some don't appreciate it because it's not what they expected.
@UK_Shree (3603)
5 Dec 08
If it was someone I really cared about and I had put a lot of thought and loved I'd be quite hurt. Giving a present to someone should not be just about the present itself - its about the thought that goes into it and the time and effort that someone puts into getting a gift. If the person you gave a gift to didn't appreciate it, maybe you should ask yourself if they are worth your efforts in the first place?
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5 Dec 08
Thanks for sharing, you're right! I thought he was worth of my effort but then at the end I was just disappointed. Yes, some people though were expecting too much to receieve but they didn't even think the other way around if they will be the one who give a present and would see or receieve the same reaction, or having seen the receivers that they were ungrateful for it.
• India
6 Dec 08
I ould really feel very bad..it happened to me sometimes and i have felt bad at that time and left over the issue later..i would really have the person to atleast pop out a smile from their face after seeing my gift and would not like them to just say a thanks from their lips..happy mylotting..
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Dec 08
It doesn't feel good, of course. I remember the gift I gave my sister-in-law and she asked where I got it. Turns out she wanted to know so that she could return it. A gift isn't always going to hit the right spot with somebody but it's rude for them not to at least say thank you.
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@jewilim (495)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
I think how i would feel would really depend on how the person would react after receiving the present that i gave. It would really make me feel sad if they would really not appreciate it. If someone would give me a gift i would really appreciate it regardless of what it is because the act of giving is already a sign that someone cares for you and wants to make you happy. Basivally, knowing that someone cares for me would already make me happy and the effort of giving would aready make me happy. With that expression i guess it would make you feel like not giving again. I think people should at least appreciate even the effort spent and that act of giving that what the present really is.
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@maroseqf (3657)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
I do not remember that it happened to me. Well, if ever I come across that situation, I will feel sad at first but later would feel good because even though my gift was not appreciated, giving a present to someone will make me feel better.
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@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
5 Dec 08
I cant remember if this already happened to me. If this would happen, I would surely feel bad about it. I know that we can t please everybody. If you give a present, please make sure that you dont ask the person to open it in front of you. It is unethical for you to ask him/her to open the present. You wouldnt want to see the reaction of the person if he/she didnt like it.
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@suzzy3 (8342)
6 Dec 08
That has never happened to me thank goodness.All of us are so pleased to get a present show apprecation for it as money is short and to think someone has thought about you and gone out and got you something.I would say that was not very nice of them and it would make me think twice before I spent any more money on them,Could it be that they were so touched they did not know what to say?
@neometal (25)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 08
I will feel a bit sad and i wonder why the reason give the present to them.Usually we give present to people we love and care.
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• India
6 Dec 08
hiii the gift is given to beloved ones so if v gave gift v should not expect thanks from them...but if they dont like the gift or the person who given the gift,then its waste to present to such a person and i think u many feel bad but they should nr ashamed by doing such type of things and they will know in the future wat they have done mistake..
@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
6 Dec 08
Well i will feel bad and thinking why did i even give a gift to her/him in the first place laugh out loud
@riyasam (16556)
• India
6 Dec 08
i would feel very dissappointed ,if my gift is not appreciated.i would think twice before giving another present.
• United States
5 Dec 08
i would feel like i have done something good for someone else. which i would have.