What if your parents said "NO" to your love relationship?

China
December 6, 2008 5:52am CST
Some of my classmates have met this problem. "You are still students, how could you make girlfriends or boyfriends? Have you consider about your future?" Parents always mentioned these reasons in order to get you to be obedient. What would you do if your parents didin't agree you at your love issues?
6 responses
9 Dec 08
Some parents want their child or children to be obedient with them in everything they say or command. Sometimes they don't even realise that there children has their own rights and freedom of choice, and they even decide what's best for their kids. Yes they are not mistaken on that one, as parents expect and do what's best for their own children but when it comes to love or relationship they can only give advice, and it's upto their child or children to decide as they are the one who knows what they feel inside their hearts when it comes to the relationship.
• China
10 Dec 08
Can't agree more! Happy mylotting, sweet lovelyvelle.
@jofeli (504)
• Indonesia
6 Dec 08
I once was warned by my parents NOT to get involved in love relationship with my boyfriend (now he is my husband ). The reason was not that I was still student or young (I was already a university student and had a job as well), but because we came from DIFFERENT RACE. Can you believe that? In their opinion, preserving race was far more important than their daughter's happiness. But I still went on with my boyfriend, and he knew right from the beginning that our relationship won't get consent from my parents. After a while, I step-by step tried to present my boyfriend as a loyal, kind-hearted, responsible, hard-working man to them. And they finally gave their consent to our relationship 'til we get married. So what I'm trying to say is, when your parents seem to be a barrier to your relationship, never confront them. Just be patient and it will all come to you how you will solve it. Just take it easy...
• China
7 Dec 08
It seems to work, anyway, Thank you for responding.
@marym14 (61)
• Ireland
6 Dec 08
Well parents come first to me and they d know best
• China
7 Dec 08
that's right, just as the saying"the salt they eat are more than the rice we eat." be respect to your parents if they are right.
• China
6 Dec 08
Why they don`t agree it?I think there must be reasons,if i know the reasons i will try to adjust them to make my parents agree it.If i can not change the fact that my parents don`t agree it,i think i will have no idea,but the definite thing is that i will give up one of them that the two most important people in my life. In our life,there will be many things and people that we have to lose them,so we should face the reality and treasure the things and people we possess now.
• China
6 Dec 08
that's right, choices should be made sometimes. but if we could persuade them, we needn't to lose one of them.
@annierose (18966)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
Well, it happened to me before. I was first year in college that time.I thought everything is alright with them knowing I have a boyfriend. But then, one day, my mom confronted me and told me to stop the relationship I have with my bf. She told me that I cannot focus on my studies because of my bf. I said that they are wrong. I do not seem anything bad having a bf while studying. He doesn't distract me with my studies. But my mom was so afraid that I might decided to marry soon just like what happened to my cousin. She not stop talking to me until I make a decision. Then I finally told her that I will obey her. But I didn't mean what I said. I just say it to make her calm. Sometimes, I really cannot understand my parent's reasoning. I not broke with my bf. I know I am old enough to handle the situation. My parents are just worried that I will marry soon, but of course, why would I marry soon? I have many dreams in life. And I wanted those dreams to turn into reality. I know married life will be full of hardships. And I know in myself I am not yet prepared for that. I not broke with my bf because we both know we are not doing anything wrong.We both know our limitations and we are both mature enough. If I will break him up, I want it to be for a valid reason. I want it to be own my own reason and not because of my family's reason or of the other people.
• China
6 Dec 08
I can see from your responding that you had really thought it over towards your relationship with your bf. Many reasons that parents worried did happen sometimes on some persons. But if we could handle the relationship, there's no worry at all. Parents should believe us.Right?
@sarawaken (360)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
i will still go on with my bf
• China
6 Dec 08
you are a brave girl.