Do you think it is just right for a girl to court a guy?

@Crizhant (187)
Philippines
December 6, 2008 5:29pm CST
Is it just proper for a girl to court a guy? What is your view on this? If you're a girl would you do this, why? if you're a guy would you accept her love, why? :)
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8 responses
@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
Though culture within different races might always see that women should always maintain themselves and let the men flock to them for women to choose, times are changing and while others could have an open mind with women doing the initiative, as they are aware of what they want and they are indeed recognized with their efforts and strengths to even have their own careers, others might still be traditional and look down upon women who seem unkept.. Looking from an audience point of view, I'd say that women who initiate courting would be impressive since, when they know what they want, they go after it. As the person being courted by a woman, I guess I'd still have to experience something like that before I could ever state an opinion about it. (^_^")
@Crizhant (187)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
Hello, i am not a very goodlooking person and i don't brag this but i experienced it, and i was turned off, because i felt that she was too aggresive and might stick with me all the time. Lol. :)
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
7 Dec 08
Well, I guess she tried and took a chance, you must've had something that got her to initiate the first move. You just didn't like her going for the initiative or you also had other reasons why you didn't consider a possibility with that girl who got attracted to a not very good looking person?
@glords (2615)
• United States
8 Dec 08
I think that in order for a relationship to work both the male and the female need to court each other. If only one person is putting forth the effort to woe, then the relationship is one sided and not balanced. I believe that the key to a good relationship is balance. So yes I think that it is great for a girl to court a boy so long as the boy courts the girl as well.
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@Crizhant (187)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
Hello. It would be fine if the guy likes the girl, but what if the girl likes the guy and the guy do not like the girl? The girl might get offended when the guy rejects the love she's offering. And we guys hates to do that. :)
@twinbear (35)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 08
It depends on the situation. I was once courted by a boy. When I told him that we should at least got engaged before going out seriously he gave the excuse that we were still studying. So I broke off with him. I did not want to be his spare tyre. When I met my husband I told him outright that if he is serious let's get married. In a way I made the first move. So we got married. In my opinion girls can make the first move but in a nice way. Once the guy knows that the girl is interested he may proceed.
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@Crizhant (187)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
That would be nice if the guy would like the girl, what if the guy won't like the girl? In this situation the girl might get offended, therefore we guys might sound bad in the end.
@seeiloveu (100)
• India
7 Dec 08
Why not? All the while the boys/guys were doing it ... Now give the gals to do it! After all, they are humans, too!
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@Crizhant (187)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
Definitely, it's just a matter of choice. Some men would like to be like that and some won't. :)
@pitsay (173)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
I am not a conservative type of girl in fact before i was the one who made the first move for my husband to notice me. But i would still prefer the old way, although i started it all, but my husband is the one who courted me. Its more decent that way. Although i am not against with those girls who courts their man, but it depends on the way they approach the guy. If they just make a simple gesture for the guy to appreciate them, like smiling and saying hello and goodbye maybe, then that would be fine. But if the girl literally courts the guy as in sending him letters and chocolates maybe, and other stuffs which i believe some girls are doing then count me out, i find it an embarrassment. Maybe just let the guy court you, is more romantic and accepted.
@Crizhant (187)
• Philippines
7 Dec 08
Good answer, that would be better, so the guy would still find the challenge of getting you, though it is not too hard since you liked him too. lol. :)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
hi i think its not proper for a woman to court a guy. this is weird, its not our culture, i know that women nowadays are more liberated but i guess courting a guy is a no no. there are means that a woman can express her likeness to a man but not the idea of courting. if i am a girl i will not do this. never. maybe if i really like the guy i will make him my best friend. i will make him love me there are ways to do that :) without courting him. thanks for posting!
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@Crizhant (187)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
Okay, i believe there were still a lot of women with conservative culture. :)
@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
6 Dec 08
i dont think its proper for girls to court guys. i was brought up in a conservative way . i was taught that girls should wait till the guy she likes tell her he loves her.
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@Crizhant (187)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
How our parents brought us up would be a factor for this kind of situation. :)
@mae1216 (658)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
Actually it depends on how liberated the girl is and how the guy will respond.