Are you loved by your in-laws?

@lilisor (205)
Hungary
December 9, 2008 3:59am CST
For about 2 years my hubby and I were living with his parents. Everything seemed to be fine until they started to tell us what to do with our lives, where to work, what friends should we have, how to dress, how to eat etc. We told them that we're the ones who make decisions for ourselves, not them. Of course, they didn't like that. One day they told me to move out, I was no longer a good daughter-in-law. So my hubby and I moved out and have started a new life. We are very happy now on our own! But I can't help thinking about my in laws. I don't hate them, I know I made mistakes but I just can't understand why they blame me for everything and don't realize how much they have been wrong towards us. I wish things were fine, as they were a few months ago. How about you? How are things between you and your in-laws? Do they love you? Do you love them?
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@eagle_f15 (2054)
• Malaysia
31 Jan 09
My father in law has shown concern about my husband and me....I think he is very much looking forward to be a grandpa. My father in law is a very nice man though he has some flaws as we all do. He lives and work in another state so whenever he comes back to our state, he will ask us out for dinner together with my sis in laws. And he always give all of us advise on life and our work. Do I love my in laws?? Well to be honest I think I think more of my father in law all this while....I think he misses us all a lot because he is another state working and longs very much to be with us a lot. So when the bundle of joy comes I think he would be very excited and proud.
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@srijshm (1165)
• India
10 Dec 08
Familiarity breeds contempt!!! It is better to separate from the in laws. This will also keep the relationship between you better. I love my in-laws & they love me too. Secret to this is that we meet only for occasions, have lots of fun. When my stay gets extended , the friction increases even for silly things like my eating habit or sleep pattern etc. I guess, this is the law of nature we need to mature from our mistakes, grow up & stay far away from our in laws.
@lilisor (205)
• Hungary
11 Dec 08
Hello Srijshm. Yes, I agree with you, it's better to live separate from in laws. We know that now :D We've learned our lesson the hard way :) Thanks for stopping by :)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
I think it is a good move that you and your husband moved out so that you can really start living independently. I love my in laws and they've been very good to me .. but it is an adjustment getting used to their families culture which is quite different from what I am used to. I just try to remind myself of all their "endearing" qualities and laugh and the "enduring" ones, haha
@lilisor (205)
• Hungary
10 Dec 08
Yes, it's a good thing that we're now independent and can do whatever we want :) I'm happy for you for having loving parents in law :) Have a lovely day :)
@williamjisir (22904)
• China
9 Dec 08
Hello lilisor. I love my parents-in-law and they love me as well. They treat me as their own son. We have a very nice relationship towards each other. Whenever we need help, they help us a lot like my own parents. I am very happy to have them as my parents-in-law and they are also happy to have me as their son-in-law. I think that I am a lucky and happy guy. Take care, friend.
@lilisor (205)
• Hungary
9 Dec 08
Well, Williamjisir, you're one lucky guy! Have a lovely day :)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
Hi lilisor, i wish you'd patch things up soon with your in-laws... As for me, my relationship with my in-laws has been great...so far so good... I've been married more than two years and we haven't the slightest problems yet. I hope there will be none in the future too. My husband is the youngest in their family and they all hoped for the best for him... I love my in-laws, they're not perfect but aren't we all? I believe they love me and treat me as family and it's the same with my family's relationship with my husband. We live in a different house from them and everybody's busy so we don't get to meddle on each others' lives and i think that it's just a good idea to be independent when you're married.