what do you do when your father has another woman?

Philippines
December 9, 2008 4:37am CST
we (my mother, sis and bro) found out about it through his cellphone..it was so stressful because my mother kept crying and was so angry..(it's been a year that they've grown cold to each other, my mother suspects he has another but then its only recently that we found a solid evidence) the problem is, my father controls all the money and so we dont have a choice but to "treat him good" for now until we can save later (since my mother does not have any job). Not only that, I was so affected to the point that I have so many low scores in school. My confidence level was also affected...what should I do?? I need to be back because I'm going down :(
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@becnh83 (806)
• Philippines
9 Dec 08
sorry to hear about what happens to your family but girl try to concentrate your studies this is the only thing you could help your mom she might even get more sick when she will know what happens to you too, and for your mom cuddle her always make her smile, if you the courage, talked to your father ask why did he do this to your mom, maybe then he realize his mistakes... cheer up girl...
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• Philippines
9 Dec 08
thanks a lot :p...i did confront him about it, but he evades...says it's just too deep for me to understand. I did try to reason out again but he won't talk about it. I'm really trying to be so strong but im so tired already
@minhaj09 (238)
• Bangladesh
9 Dec 08
I'm hurt. Anyway,I guess she may be your dads frnd... As he has a family & obviously you r the daughter,i think he'll not commite with such a sin indeed. b stronger girl.. b sure wats actually happening. b close to ur dad that'll certainly cast a great sympathy while he'll do anything. its most important at this moment not to keep a distance with ur dad coz a man only does this if he doesn't get any mentally peace/support from his family members. try to trace the lady whome with your dad is engaged.u can do it while ur father is sleeping,u can collect her cell number.then give the cell number to ur maternal uncle(dont give it to ur mom coz she can rebuke the lady & the lady'll then harm ur mom,ok?). Ur maternal uncle will meet with the lady & will try to make her that its not fare. I think,by this way,u can solve it. plz follow my steps. May Allah bless u all.
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
10 Dec 08
It's a family affair and i cant help u much, except to tell u, be strong.. Your mom has been stressed enough and u should not add on to her stress.. INstead, u have to be more matured now, helping out in the house, and start to earn some money.. As for your father, there's really nothing the whole family can do to him, unless all of u move out.. IS your mom ready to divorce him?? If not, she will always be suffering, and she wont be happy.. U are also a gal, so u should understand how she feels..
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