listen to others opinion or your own heart?
By shonali
@shonali (1286)
India
December 10, 2008 12:16pm CST
i am currently going around with a very sweet guy and its been more than a year now that i am with him.... he is from my mom's side of the family(he aint my cousin)
but when i announced the news to my mom she was very upset at my decision as she thinks he is not upto my mark.... well he is educated and has a job and stuff but he ahsnt gotten the education we got .... but that isnt his fault.... he cant speak english all that well but he tried to learn for me...he can speak in english but gets a little tongue twisted when it comes to formation of scentences .... everybody tells me to dump him but i really love him and dont want to dump him
everyone tells me that i will later on regret this decision of mine to date him but i dont think i will....
i am fed up of these people trying to get me out of this relationship.... i really dont know what to do?
should i listen to them or my heart?
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8 responses
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
11 Dec 08
i think you should weigh things out. sometimes we can be blinded with love that we are not able to see the bad side of our loved ones. i have learned from the past that we should always have to consider our parents approval in choosing person that we are going to end up with because i believe that parents know what's best for us. think about it.
@shonali (1286)
• India
13 Dec 08
now that you are saying that i have to listen to my parents ill tell you a short story about a very close friend of mine.... she was in love with a guy (who i admit wasnt good for her or any girl as a matter) but she let him go cos of her parents.... she agreed...
they dint want her to go back to him again so in a hurry they found a guy for her and turned out to be very good.... she married him and soon after a month she regretted marrying him.... she moved out and since then its been a year she is staying seperate and has filed for a divorce.....
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
13 Dec 08
what a sad story. but what i have shared with you is also based on my own experience. that's why i told you to weigh things out, at the end of the day you're still the one that's going to make a decision whether to go on with it or not. good luck. god bless.
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@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
11 Dec 08
Well if you both love each other prove them wrong. It's your life, you make your own life, so it's up to you. Your heart belong to you, not them, it's what will make you happy. Happiness is you make it. Well parents just loves you, they always wants the best for their children. Maybe their just protecting you. But what5 counts is you, you have the ball. Will you listen, fight for it, and prove them wrong.In time I guess! As long as you can deal on your own self. What's best for you that counts a lot! Have a nice day to you!
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
18 Dec 08
Listen to your heart. You live life for yourself and not for others. Ultimately, you are the one who is living your life. Whatever decisions you make, right or wrong, you are the one who bears the consequences. Always live life without regrets. Since you think that you won't regret being with him, follow your heart.
I wish you happiness. 
@jcay_lorna (433)
• Ireland
19 Dec 08
I'd say whether you listen to your heart or to other people's opinion, in the end your the only one who can decide whats best for you. Don't totally ignore what others will say. You might find it helpful in the end and work on it to make it work for you instead. Hope you will resolve this problem soon. Happy Holidays
@shonali (1286)
• India
19 Dec 08
thanks for your advice..... and you are right really.... and i havent ignored what other people say but most of them really dont make any sense as they are looking at the exterior rather than knowing the person really....
but there were some who dint mention anything about the looks and exterior so i did keep their opinions in mind !!
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
10 Dec 08
If they told you he was manipulative, or cruel, mean, rude, evil, perverted, untrustworthy, conniving, lazy or any such thing, .... then you would have reason to question your decision. Maybe they could see something that you cannot ......
BUT because he doesn't speak English well? No way!
Is he honest? Hard-working? Sensitive to your needs? Fun to be with? Moral? etc. Then you need to decide if those are the qualities you are looking for. ....BUT if having the approval of your parents is Extremely important to you, then you need to decide that too.
@rajeshank (253)
• India
17 Dec 08
Hi...Do wat your heart says don't care about others suggestion in it...because its your life you have to decide no other have rights to suggest you..go with your heart all will happen well and kool...if you have to get one thing you have to leave some others that's fact so be confident in your heart...and do what your heart says...advance congrats...:)
