Spreading The Joy ... Not !

Canada
December 11, 2008 2:29am CST
I've recently started several Holiday Season topics. These were intended to be lighthearted, spark memories, etc. However, I've received 'some' responses to these, that are just plain heartbreaking. They are from some dear friends of mine here. Has one of your topics ever produced some heart wrenching responses? Although unexpected, were you able to 'be there' for your friends and others? Do you 'try' to choose your topics more carefully, since this occurred? I sincerely feel bad that there are so many wounded hearts, this time of year.
7 responses
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
11 Dec 08
I choose topics that I think will be of interest to people. Some are happy some are sad, that is just the way it is, yes I hurt when people are sad too.
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• Canada
18 Dec 08
Hi winterose, I 'try' to choose interesting topics too. I have definitely started some sad ones, but am surprised to receive such heartbreaking responses, to what I meant to be a fun topic. Thanks for stopping by, as always. Take care.
@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I know there are a lot of people that don't need enemies, they've got family. I try to be supportive of friends who are hurting, and try to advise if I have any to give.
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• Canada
18 Dec 08
Hi ElicBxn, I know there are a lot of people that don't need enemies, they've got family. That's a good way you have of putting things. I also try to be there for my friends, and offer any advice that I think would be helpful, if asked. Thanks for sharing. Take care.
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• Canada
18 Dec 08
Sorry, I forgot to put the 'quotes' on my opening statement, as I was just wanting to 'reemphasize' what you've said here.
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
18 Dec 08
I know several of those people who have family. Its bad when the people who should be most supportive are the ones that are doing their best to pull the rug out from under you.
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• United States
21 Dec 08
I think what you did was good but it is not your falt if so many people had horrible Christmas'. I know for one I was probably one of your fiends how talked about the horrible Christmas. I am sorry if I upset you. My intention was to let you know the truth and not upset you. Please continue to start your discussions as before and do not second guess yourself. Continue to be a good friend and be there for your friends when you can. Merry Christmas my friend and thanks for being so kind.
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• Canada
22 Dec 08
Hi teapotmom, Thanks so much for this. Yes, you are one of the ones I feel so sad for. Please don't apologize for upsetting me. It just makes me feel so hurt, to think of 'anybody' doing something like this to their own children. I just don't get how 'they' could be so cruel. I'll take your advice, and continue to start my discussions, as they come to mind. I 'try' to be there for my friends, but so many times I feel very inadequate. I am truly blessed to have such wonderful Christmas memories, from my childhood. I realize this 'even more' now. Love and Big Hugs to you, my friend.
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• United States
30 Dec 08
Someone I do not want you to ever feel inadequate because you feel you cannot help us how have had a crappy child hood. Most of us just need our friends to listen to us and understand where we are coming from. I do value our friend ship and I find just knowing that I have lots of friends here on myLot does help. I also feel safe to be able to say what I am feeling when I am down from what my parents have done to me. I have a good life now, I have a great family who loves me I am expecting my first grand baby in two months and have loads of friends how love me. What more can a person want? Thanks for being my friend. Hugs teapot
• United States
12 Dec 08
I have only started 1 discussion and so I can't answer from that prospective. The time of year is usually a time when people can forget their worries and have a good time with friends and family. The times we find ourselves in right now have not happened since 1929 and the depression. There are alot of people out there really hurting. I am thanful for people like you that have compassion for perople and the struggles. We have never seen anything like this before in most of our life times. If your situation is still good then thank your blessings. I am afraid the it is going to get worse before it gets better and the projections are for 2010 before we see it get better.
• Canada
18 Dec 08
Hi morningstar, I find there are often many people hurting at this time of year. You're right about this particular one, being even harder. Thanks for your kind words here. My life hasn't been easy, and I can empathize with many 'here.' I struggle daily with health and financial issues, but still have wonderful family and friends who support me. I am truly blessed. We need to be there for each other during this crisis, and at other times as well. Thanks so much for sharing. Take care.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
12 Dec 08
Yes I've had the same experience where I get very revealing responses that are often very heart wrenching. For instance the disability discussion in which a lot of people described their particular disability (or disabilities in some cases) and made me realize how many people are in such severe pain due to the disability. After reading some of the responses it makes me ashamed if I get whiney with my problems.
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• Canada
18 Dec 08
Hi pye, Sometimes the lightest of topics I've started, can have this effect. There are many 'here' with disabilities, and I do find the support received to be very helpful. myLot is a great help to me, in causing me to be thankful for many things, past and present. Some people have had such hard lives. Thanks for sharing, as always. Take care.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
11 Dec 08
Life is a mix of sadness and happiness...No one can be happy or sad all the time..if it was so the spice of life would be gone . it is just that most humans remember hurts far too long than happiness and even a small hurt hurts a lot while no one care to be happy in things of small happiness.. Early morning birds chirping , a new bird hatching out of egg not many people would remember it but they would if his sister told him that she cant come for his wife delivery. we always over look small happiness in search of bigger happiness and that big happiness comes only once in years like birth of a child but we take small things to heart if it hurts us thats why we usually find more people who are sad than happy people. Wounded hearts is part of growing up. People fall in love and then fall out of it. Did the person with his heart wounded ever paused to think that the reason of his hurt can be he himself and not his gf or bf as case might be. And since most people ego wont let them say one word that is SORRY and mean it, wounded heart is result of it.
• Canada
18 Dec 08
You've made some good points here. Many people take the simple, everyday joys of life, for granted. I had started a couple of discussions here, that I thought would be fun. I had no idea that they would bring to mind painful memories, for some 'myLot friends.' Thanks for your response, and welcome to myLot.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
22 Dec 08
I usually post light-hearted and frivolous discussion and am often rocked by some of the serious responses that I receive in response. This time of year is often very hard for people for a variety of reasons and when I write "I hope all my friends drop in" and the reply comes "I don't have any friends" then that can and does crush me. Sometimes I think that it would be good to start a commune and for us all to move in with our damaged lives. LOL. But that wouldn't be very realistic and we'd soon find something to complain about even there. I don't think that we'd ever post anything if we stopped to consider that we might upset, hurt or force people to confront their demons every time that we sat down and started to type. Provided that we are honest with ourselves and don't deliberately set out to offend, then we should be able to post with clear consciences .