how to teach someone to be romantic?

United States
December 14, 2008 12:29pm CST
how do you teach a guy to be romantic? to show he cares? my fiance is so non romantic... he doesnt grasp the idea of even trying to be.. how do i make him understand the importance of romance between our relationship.
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@marty3888 (2359)
• United States
14 Dec 08
I don't think you can. I think that's in a person's personality or not. Hey, at least you're getting married. I'm the exact opposite. I am the one that's romantic, my girlfriend is not. We met , fell in love, got a house together and are living together. She's been married twice, both guys were losers. (her 2nd one cheated on her while her dad was dying.) We talked about getting married. I was very excited because I've never been married and now it looked like I was going to. But then other times she said she didn't want to, we're happy, she said. Also, we could be watching tv together and she doesn't like to cuddle or kiss. I like doing things for her though. A few minutes before she gets home from work I'll go out in the garage and open the door so she doesn't have tpo get out of the car after working all day. In the mean time, is it really being romantic if you have to make him understand? With me, If I told her that seeing commercials with wedding dresses hurts, she might feel bad and change her mind, but I don't want that. I don't want nher to dread her wedding day. So, I say nothing.
• United States
14 Dec 08
see i hate watching romantic movies now cause its like i wish i had that.. i mean i do things for him all the time to make him know i love him but its like i can get him to cuddle a little during a movie but other than that i can forget even the thought of it..
@marty3888 (2359)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Yeah, me too! Or even regular programs on tv, that have couples cuddling or saying romantic things to each other. Unfourtunetly for you and me, we're always going to have to watch things like that. And think if only.
• Philippines
15 Dec 08
you dont need to teach a person to be romantic cause it might looks scripted. when u love someone u must show it and express it. its not only just to pleased the person u love but because its the way u feel towards to that person.
@savak03 (6681)
• United States
15 Dec 08
If the male don't learn to be romantic while he is a boy I don't think he will ever learn it. True love is rarely like they show it in the movies and if we women set our hearts on that kind of a relationship we will almost always be disappointed.
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
15 Dec 08
I don't think you can teach a guy to be romantic. Either he is or he isn't. You can always mention a few ways of how you'd like him to be romantic. Ultimately though it's up to him if he wants to even try.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
14 Dec 08
I think romance is a part of being creative. Some people are just not creative at all. I would have to say Im one of them. I may want to be romantic, but I wouldn't know where to start. Candle light dinner. ok that sounds romantic, but it would almost be impossible to do with so many kids. Other than that I wouldn't have a clue what to do for being romantic. Don't be so hard on him, he is not the only one. If his creativity is the problem try giving him some ideas. Or he may just feel weird doing special things if its not a norm. He may feel foolish.
@rick_d (213)
• United States
14 Dec 08
Looking at it from a guys view I don't think you can teach him.for a guy you either are or aren't.guy's don't like to do things they don't feel comfortable doing.you could probably get him to pull your chair out, open the car door for you or maybe cook a dinner for you or just basically to be a gentleman but romance is to close to being in touch with your feelings.but then I may be wrong.keep suggesting and trying.
• India
14 Dec 08
to be romantic is a nature ...nature is not a habit which can be taught or learned..it has to be realized from within...a romantic person admires beauty , admires nature, is an explorer,dreamer,kind and passionate...
@ganderlot (352)
• United States
14 Dec 08
That's a tough one. I'm not sure that you can. If you try to make him jealous that doesn't work and the more you push someone the more they will do the opposite. First you have to accept him as he is. Maybe you should try some romantic things and once he realizes they are important to you he might get it. If you love him don't let that drive you crazy. Regards