How many kids do you want to have?

@Unah08 (671)
Philippines
December 15, 2008 1:06pm CST
I thought before that I am a kid/baby-lover, cause I'm really fond of them especially when their cute and cuddly, they surely never fail to make me smile and remove all my worries away when I see a baby or a little child. But recently when my nephew from my brother was born (oh yes he is very cute and cuddly)but I can't ignore the fact that he is also a burden especially when I'm the one taking care of him. He cries a lot and almost losing my patience when he starts his tantrums. This lessened my fondness to kids and opting to have only one-two in the future instead of having three-five which is what I have in mind before. And likewise for practical reason because life is not easy this days and it's hard to earn money to support a big family. Do you think so too?...
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@cbreeze (1207)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Well, I have six and no regrets. Each child is different though. Some were perfect angels while some threw tantrums or cried a lot. But those are stages they grow out of quickly. As far as the financial picture goes: I think if you believe it's too hard financially then surely it will be too hard. If you believe you will always be able and there always will be enough to go around then that's what will manifest itself. I'm a single parent and there have been some rough periods but for the most part I don't think my life has been any rougher than people with two parents or single parents with fewer kids or even anyone without any children. I'm sure everyone experiences ups and downs financially and otherwise.
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• Philippines
16 Dec 08
I only want to have one kid but my husband wanted two or three. I just want to have one coz I found it very hard to be a pregnant woman especially when the time comes that you have to give birth. I'm on my 7th month of pregnancy right now and honestly I can't sleep at night thinking of the pain that I have to face. I really like kids. I have experience being a mom to a 1 year to 3 year old boy but he is only my nephew. My elder sister don't have time to take care of him coz she has to work some place far from ours. I know it's hard taking care of babies but I don't think it's a burden. I love kids and I love taking care of them.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I have some hope for you, like you i had a really painful experience with the first birth, but the next one was so easy I didn't even realize I had done it. Every birth is different so maybe you'll have an easy one this time. Blessings
@jzqt27 (541)
• Canada
15 Dec 08
i want at least 2-4 kids. but i really want 5-8 kids if that possible for me.
@Unah08 (671)
• Philippines
17 Aug 11
Yes I have wishes like that too, but 5-8 kids is too much for me so I'll just settle with 2-3. I hope you could really possibly raised 5-8. We were 5 children in the family and big family does have its advantage.
• United States
15 Dec 08
I feel the same way sometimes I want one and two so they could keep each other company. Then I get to five somehow. Then when I go to the store and see other children with their parents I'm back to zero. Things are getting expensive as it is and they take up a lot of time, energy and sleep. I would have to be very wealthy by the time I'm ready to have kids.
@Unah08 (671)
• Philippines
17 Aug 11
Yes that is exactly what's happening to me. We didn't grew up lavishly and we were okay with that but I want my children to have all of their needs and some of their wants and I want also to give them the best things in life and most of the best things in life has price tags on it, and they don't come in cheap packages. So let's make more so we could gain more.
• United States
15 Dec 08
I want four kids. Yeah kids are stressful sometimes and a challenge but they are also great contributions to the world when brought up right. I'm the middle child of three with my younger brother being only 22 months younger than I am. I don't want the weight of being a middle child to fall on anyone of my children. Coming from a large family makes it easier to see the positives that override the negatives. Money can always be stretched too. It's hard to support a big family lavishly but it is possible to have a large family if you are able to manage your money.
@Unah08 (671)
• Philippines
17 Aug 11
Everyone must make it a goal to bring up their children the right way, being a responsible and good parent play a crucial role in how the children view life and how they grow up to be a good citizen. I want to be an optimist with all this having a big family thing but sometimes when the outside forces comes into the picture I can't help but feel anxious on how will I handle to have one someday. But the good thing is I still have many years to prepare for it.
@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
15 Dec 08
I have two girls, first one was planned and the second one was our little surprise, but oh what a nice surprise. They are only 18 months apart in age so its very hard to find time to do anything that doens't involve them. . I am glad that i have two and i won't be having any more because i have had my tubes tied after teh last. which is good i suppose since i am almost 30 and there is an increased risk for mother and baby the older you get. . I wouldnt have another so close in age as its hard to give each equal attention when one is a newborn and the other is not even a toddler yet!
@Unah08 (671)
• Philippines
17 Aug 11
Little babies are always a delight. And yes you are right with the age gap issues. it is really not that easy to come around if your hands are tied with so many responsibilities to attend to. But unfortunately if I want to have more than 2, I need to have them each year since I'm already 27 and yes you also mentioned about the risk of getting pregnant beyond 30, and it just saddens me to think of it actually. I'm not losing hope though since my mom had her first child at the age of 29 and she was blessed with 4 more after my eldest brother and her youngest is a twin and one of the twin is me. We all turned out fine.
@diillu (5128)
15 Dec 08
I also totally love babies and I intend to have quite a number of kids. I think it would be around 3 or 4 kids in my family. Cause I myself had 2 other siblings and my childhood was really fun. Growing up with siblings is what I appreaciate most in my life. So, I would like to give my children the same environment. So, I'm planning to have many kids. I really love them.
@Unah08 (671)
• Philippines
17 Aug 11
Good for you mate. I grew up with my 4 siblings as well and like you we also had so much fun. But caring for a large family requires an amazing effort and balance of everything. But i'm inspired by your positivity and optimism, and I think I would consider having more than 2 children, for now I will work my butt harder in order to provide a good life for my babies in the near future.
@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
15 Dec 08
I only want three at the least but may go for more. I love kids no matter what. Yeah the tantrums get bad. The up all night gets annoying. All the accidents and worrying you deal with. Its all worth it.
@Unah08 (671)
• Philippines
17 Aug 11
I agree with you jessi, I guess that feeling of worthiness will come to me when I have my own babies already. But for the moment I guess I'll just have to practice liking them again with my nephews and nieces.
@rj0921 (115)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
I still am single now but this idea of how many kids i would like to have enters my mind so often. With my experience of helping my Aunt with her 2 toddlers, I find it really difficult to raise children especially when they are still growing up from infancy to toddlerhood. But I have learned from my aunts that when the time comes you will be having kids, though they are difficult to raise, they will still bring joy and laughter to the family. But I would still want just 2 kids and that's it!;-)
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
currently i do not want to have kids, i am already a burden to myself when i try to figure out how to feed me, how much more if i have kids? and a wife? hehehe although, if i ever have a child, i want a cute baby girl so i can take her out to the mall and go shopping with her and give her all the toys she wants and a pet dog hehehe
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
21 Jan 09
H[i]i Unah, I also enjoy kids and find them cute but I have no patient for them for 24/7, LOL! I have tried taking care of my aunt's son only for a very short time when I was in College and aunt will drop by in our apartment to let me take care her son because she has also an appointment! ANyway, if ever I will love to have in the future, even if I am in my 30's this time, maybe I will love to have 1~[/i]
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
I have one child. My only daughter. That is the reason why up to now I don't have another baby because life is so hard now a days. But if I have the money I want to have two daughters and two sons that is my idea of a family. I do not want to have an only daughter because I was thinking if problem comes to the family it will be very hard for her for she is all alone unlike if she had other siblings they can share their problems to each other.
• United States
20 Dec 08
There's so much responsibility involved with being a parent. Not everyone is cut out for the job. I love being an aunt, but I don't think I have the patience to be a parent.
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
19 Dec 08
[i]Hello Unah08, Yes, there is a lot of sacrifice bringing up kids. They are cute and loveable if you take care of them for a few minutes. But if you are with them all day and through out the years, your blood will dry out. But it's part of growing up and being adult and life. We have three children and after the third child we decided to have my partner ligated. Now the children are grown up and we want to have a little baby but it's not possible anymore. Anyway, three children are more better than none. Initially we want four or five children, but it's a challenge to raise a family at the same earning a living. I think we were able to survive those early years and now still trying to survive college years of the children. Your decision to have two children is good, but if you can, having a large family is also fun and challenging. Regards.[/i]
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
I want many kids, jejeje. I'd love to have many of them, see them grow and spread my last name.jejeje
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
17 Dec 08
i have one kid and this is enough.having kid in germany is very expensive because i am doing alone to taking care if it specialy hubby at work.
@giuliaXD (162)
• Italy
17 Dec 08
I think that it's very difficult to answer to your question. I have always wanted to have children. and sometimes, I look foward to becoming adult just to have children. I couldn't imagine a life without having a family, it would be too sad. but, sometimes I think that's very selfish having children in a world like this. what kind of life can this world offer to a child growing up? the society is too spoiled and giving love to your children is not enough to preserve them to bad choices and to temptations.
• United States
16 Dec 08
i always said one.. and i have her but i also have 2 step sons.. but at times i wish i wasnt a step-mom i just wasnt ready for it.. btu i love neing a mommy
@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I have three. Two girls and a boy. My son is in the middle so he can take care of both of them. Children are very unique indeed. My oldest daughter (6yrs old) is definitely a daddy's girl. She tries very hard to follow instructions and to ensure that I'm happy with her. She does have her moments especially when she is tired or thinks she is in trouble. She was born late. My son (5yrs old) is suffice to say a mommy's boy. He tries to ensure mommy is always taken care of, and he often asks does mommy have this or that, when we are out and about shopping. He was born on time, but weighed the most. My youngest daughter (3yrs old in January) is a mixture of both of her older siblings personalities with a distinct behavior and mannerisms of her own. For instance out of all three of my children, she is the only one that sucks her thumb and still sucks it to this day. She was born a couple of weeks early. Each of them like everyone is very unique and have their own personality and mannerisms, although they do tend to piggy back off of one another often in the area of behavior. But they love each other and that is evident by the way they look after one another. So, I wouldn't give any of them away, and despite what is going on in this dreaded economy, I will ensure that all of their immediate needs are met and that they lack for nothing, because contrary to popular demand, I have a very wealthy heavenly father, who loathes and lavishes me with his daily benefits.
@krfanlim (232)
• Malaysia
16 Dec 08
I'd like to have 2!! A boy, and a girl!! And yeah, it's all about responsibility, other than the cutesiness and cuddly stuff. My parents always tell me that it's a real challenge and burden to bring me and my 2 younger siblings up. But at the end of the route, when all your children are grown-up, you feel very accomplished and victorious that you've done such a wonderful job. That's satisfaction.