Do you ever delete lots of friends of your mylot list ?

@elitess (5072)
Ipswich, England
December 15, 2008 1:14pm CST
I just finished deleting about 30 "friends" of my list. Those were people who either never replied to any of my topics since we became friends (and usually i waited for more than 1 month for them to do so) or they have not been active for at least 1 month (or generally more than 2). What about you, do you delete "friends" on mylot that don't help you in any way ?
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@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
I have never deleted any of my friends on my list. I know i had so many and that i know some of them might deleted me on their list. Its just that i couldn't respond to all of them and that i have only limited time but that doesn't mean they are not important to me. As long as i have encountered any of their discussion i will respond if i can relate but if couldn't relate then i guess it just reasonable that i couldn't response since i don't have anything to say. When i log in on mylot i go directly to discussion, i couldn't afford to waste time browsing as it will only eat up my time and i may not able to do at least 3 comments. Anyways, from the inner of my heart i do appreciate all my friends whether they respond or not on my discussion. To the best i can i will try to respond at least one if i had enough time and that if i can relate to the topic and that i have words to share. My apologize for all my friends that i havent visit for a quite a long time. Have a nice day ahead. happy mylotting!
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• India
16 Dec 08
i think u are right in deleting your friends ..those were not of your use......infact my friend list also same worthless...now the time to delet all of them
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• India
16 Dec 08
NO i want to make new friends as i am new to mylot i want to have around 100 friends they help us increase our earnings and vice-versa so, no chance of deleting friends right now!!
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@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
17 Dec 08
When I receive a request for 'add', I just check the profile of the member. I mainly see the profile of the member to check, what kind of discussions he/she starts or responds, irrespective of his/her place of origin. It is very true that most of the members, whom you add, do not appear to respond to your discussions and it so happens you also do not respond to their discussions. When such kind of interaction does not take place, there is no fun in continuing with the fellow, I just review my list of friends, periodically and those I find are 'inactive' for quite a long time (say atleast six months) I normally 'delete' their names from my list. I feel that short list of 'active' friends is more useful than a long list of 'inactive friends'.
@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
17 Dec 08
Sometimes i check it too, although in general i have accepted all the requests and if that particular member got me upset or something by starting to spam me for example, i just deleted him as a result. As i said all i want is the slightest sign of interest from my friends on the list, because that's the reason why i call them friends, right ? I think we see eye to eye about a short but active list
@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
17 Dec 08
I agree with your justification and believe that if we are 'friends', we must support each other, as and when and as much as possible. Many thanks for your comments.
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@ellie333 (21029)
16 Dec 08
Hi Elitess, Don't delete me as I have been very inactive of late but hopefully will be at some stage in the near future. I have only ever deleted a few and one was sending me nasty PMs and emails and the others were putting moneymaking links into my discussions but not responding. I hesitate to delete as one of my friends was absent for 6 months due to other committments and returned and was upset to find that many people that they had considered a friend, a proper friend, had deleted them. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
16 Dec 08
Ellie come on :D you know me better than that. I would never delete somebody who answered one of my discussions or who left a comment for my pictures or profile. You have proven your friendship more than once so you are a keeper for me - no need to ever worry ;)
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@ellie333 (21029)
16 Dec 08
I'm on the to keep list then! HAPPY. Huggles. Ellie :D
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• China
16 Dec 08
well. Elitess what do you mean by friends? because they do not hlep you so you deleted them on your list? is that means friends for you only by us? well, i think we should help each other....it's not reason to get them out beucase you did not get help from them anymore.... well maybe they are not your friends,but the tool? i hope not. cheers
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@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
16 Dec 08
First of all, if they helped me at any time in their history of friends, i would not delete them - you said "beucase you did not get help from them anymore." - well they never did anything for me - no comments on a picture, no response to any of my discussions (and i have quite a few)- not even a lousy "hi" on my profile so that i know that i am not just a filled up space in their profile.
• China
17 Dec 08
ok..got you why you did that... but still i think its no right to do that because your friends no help you.and you give them up.... cheers
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
16 Dec 08
Hi elitess. I have actually just gone through a similar process myself. I didn't delete as many as you did, but I will eventually! I was surprised to see how many "friends" I have on my list that have either NOT been active for 60 days or more; or that I don't recall ever seeing anywhere. Based on this, I see no reason why I should keep them there just for the sake of it. Some people may think that what you are doing is harsh, but I don't at all. I have never understood people that aim to add as many friends as possible because there is no way they can live up to the definition of "friend" if they do that. We are far better off having a manageable list that we can interact effectively with, than a large list that we can never keep up with in my opinion.
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@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
16 Dec 08
James... i will tell you what some people may try - they try to get let's say 10.000 friends in order to get at least 100 posts to their discussion - and i have seen it even work, but i don't like this, as i would never be able to keep up with all of them just for the sake of it.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
16 Dec 08
I know of an exact example of what you have described elitess and as far as I am concerned, adding this many "friends" just to get mass responses completely defies the whole purpose of being a member of this community. If many of the people reponding are being replied to, or having their own discussions responded to in parallel, then I would think differently. But for most people with mass connections they are purely building tally's and not friendships at all.
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• Germany
15 Dec 08
Hi, elitess. So far I have never deleted anyone from my friend list. I won't delete them just because of they don't reply to my discussions. I don't have much discussions too and perhaps they are not really interested in my discussions or some of them are not aware of my discussions at all. Just like i can't reply to all my friends' discussions. Sometimes i have nothing to say or i have never experienced what they have before. But i will be happy if they response to my discussions, and i will try to give response to theirs too. Happy mylotting and have a nice day!
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@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
15 Dec 08
Hi there lulu. The thing is that i have many topics started from different interests and at least one of them is bound to catch a friend's attention. I mean that friend could at least leave a comment (like hey there). I think that for a person to be considered my friend he should at least show me the slightest interest for it. I would rather prefer quality over quantity.
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• Germany
15 Dec 08
I totally can understand what you feel. I don't think that much about this issue, from my point of view, it's better to have friends rather an enemy. I read from other discussions, some people commented that they won't reply to the discussions if there is already similar answers replied. I think this makes sense too, or perhaps the other friends are too busy with their own stuff or discussions. Anyway, i don't really mind about this. I'm just happy to make friends here every day.
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
16 Dec 08
No, I have never deleted anyone on my friends list due to them not responding to discussions that I started. I just don't believe in doing that. Plus, I might find some of their discussions of interest and want to respond to them, but it can make it harder to find their discussions if they weren't on my friends list. And last but not least no one would be able to send/receive PM's or post comments on profiles if they aren't on a fellow mylotter's friend's list. This was one of the reasons why I made it possible for anyone to email me, not just those on my friends list. So that if someone has a question for me they don't have to worry about requesting my friendship first. I don't always respond to your discussions, so feel free to delete me from your friends list if you want. It's up to you.
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@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
16 Dec 08
Well, i may not have explained it thoroughly. I meant i deleted people who for example never shown the slightest interest towards me and apart from that all their discussions are about money making sites - why would i keep a person like that ? Or another example a person that never responded to my discussions and now it has been offline for more than 2 months ? I think those people just take up space in my profile and keep me from concentrating on my real friends that either start interesting discussions, or show a slight interest to me, or even are active within a few fields even if i can't always respond to their topics, but i try my best to do so. Just that we are clear: i would never delete a member that shown the slightest interest towards me: a comment on a picture, on a discussion or on a profile; or a person that at least has been active and has more than one interest. I would never delete you or any other of the persons that i see here active, and sometimes even active in my discussions as i cherish my true friends.
16 Dec 08
Hi elitess, You know that has got me thinking, I have a few friends on my list that haven't been acive for 4 months, but I have not deleted theem as I keep thinking they may come back but seeing deleteting them I might do that myself. Thanks. What is the point if they don't get in touch with you at all? Tamara
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@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
16 Dec 08
Well i always thought that if they are going to come back and would want your friendship again - they may ask it again, right ? I mean if they left for such a long time it is understandable for you to make room for new friends and if they come back and want your friendship... it's not hard to ask it.
• Philippines
15 Dec 08
I have never yet deleted any of my friends here on myLot. Even though they have not responded to my topics or discussions, I would still not delete them. I would not also delete some of my friends who seemed to have not logged in here for a very long time. Perhaps they are busy and find no time visiting here. I have lots of friends here and some of them are really very kind. They make my days complete just simply talking to them. :-)
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• Philippines
15 Dec 08
Yup, i totally agree with you braveheart. I think some people might be just busy and have no time to do mylot yet. Let's just continue to be friends with them. Making a lot of friends is so fun but deleting them is another. I will not delete them either.
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@KrauseHome (35522)
• United States
1 Sep 09
Personally from time to time I will go thru my friends list and weed out some of the people there. Most of the time when I find myself removing someone from there, is people who are No longer active anymore in here as well. I know people have busy lives and come and go, but when they tend to disappear from here it is time to do away just to make way for the New and to keep my list looking a little more cleaner and better as well.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I did once but now I just leave them. I figure their not hurting anything and maybe they'll decide to come back some time. I don't worry a lot if they are "helping" me or not, I just go on with my day. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@balasri (26553)
• India
26 Dec 08
Time to do that.Thanks for reminding me.There are plenty of inactive friends waiting to be deleted.
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@adoremay (2069)
• Philippines
21 Dec 08
I have not done that thing yet, and I don't have the intention of doing as well. Anyhows, my mylot friends whether they respond or not, they are still on my lists, and I am still calling them my mylot friends. I have to thank you though for not deleting me, I have been inactive for these fast few months.
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@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
21 Dec 08
Oh hey! How's it going? Hope you havent deleted me yet Had problems with our internet connection and it has just been fixed today so Im catching up on mail and other online chores. Missed myLot and my friends here, including you of course. Well, I dont really delete any of my friends, or at least I havent deleted any of them yet. Even those inactive ones cause I found that some do come back after a long time, some dont though, but Im okay with it. It was nice knowing them. If you have deleted me, I dont mind, I understand. Still have 150+ mails to sort through.. Take care always and happy holidays!!^_^
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
I never tried that... but I guess we do need that as well. Just to have not just QUATITY but even QUALITY friends here... I will be doing that soon. Wait... Hope my friend... I will not be deleted in your list of friends. God bless you and your beloved girl
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• Philippines
19 Dec 08
no, hehhee, I still need a lot of friends...:)even if they are not interested of the topic I post. I take it as a challenge.
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@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
19 Dec 08
So far I never had the chance to delete some of the people in my friend's list. If they don't answer to my posted discussions I don't mind because there are still people here in mylot who value what I have posted by posting their responses so it's okay for me.
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@faizi1 (157)
• Pakistan
16 Dec 08
hi dear well i i also do that of my friends if they did"nt responses of my discussion in my lot i also delete them from my friends list because i did"nt want those friends who do"nt care of me or my self thank you
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