Do you have any one sided friendships or friends who take you for granted?
By Im4real79
@Im4real79 (58)
United States
December 16, 2008 7:25pm CST
I have a long time friend who is very selfish and takes me for granted. We were close friends for years. I try to spend time with her or ask her to come and see me, but she will make any excuse to avoid making any efforts on her part. Such as "I am on my period" or "when the weather is warm" or my favorite "I don't know". She will drive over two hours to NY to see her boyfriend, but she won't drive 25 minutes to see me. When she calls, she only brags about money she has spent on materialistic stuff and how much she made at the casino. Another place she frequents, but never asks me to come along. It seems she only bothers with me when it is convient for her. She only thinks of herself and her "sugar daddy" who spoils her rotten. When I try to call her I am put through to voicemail. She is constantly saying how we are "best friends". Huh? She thinks because she calls me once every two months, that makes her my friend. I am usually the last person on her list. Everyone else is more important than me, but yet I am her "best friend". I have been a friend to her all of these 15+ years, but she is nowhere to be found when I need her. It hurts to say it, but she isn't a "real" friend. Fairweather friend or aquaintance is more like it. Your thoughts?
1 response
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
17 Dec 08
There are two sides to a story but if this is her attitude I would not refer her as best friend. This is not an attitude of a best friend. So maybe instead of pushing up on her leave her be.
@Im4real79 (58)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Yes.I agree. We stopped talking for awhile before because of how she treated me in the past. She has done things to hurt me before and she asked me to give her another chance because she said she changed and wanted us to be friends again. I am starting to wonder if I made a mistake by letting her back into my life. My family has told me to leave her alone and not answer her phone calls, but it is hard to let go sometime.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
17 Dec 08
How hard it is to let go after someone who is only using you for convenience. True friendship should come from within the individual. There are alot of nice persons out there who will be ready to be friends with you. Look in your circle of friends and see who you can trust to be your close friend.
Sometimes there are persons in our circle who we choose to ignore because of another and this person has the attributes that we are looking for in friendship. Let this friend go and build back your self esteem. You don't need this friend.
