what do you think about married life?

India
December 17, 2008 12:03pm CST
Hi friends my parents are planing to finish my marriage in coming year..but i am not interested in it...i feel if i got married means all my freedom and joy will fly off...can you give suggestion its true or not...:)
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7 responses
@shonali (1286)
• India
17 Dec 08
well definately there will be less of freedom but also there will be a commitment which most people dont have in their lives..... mayeb its for the better at times but sometimes marriage isnt the solution as most parents think....... i am 24 now and still not readu for marriage though my parents asked me once and then gave up on me that same day..... but i think marriage is one decision which should be taken wisely by both the parents and also the people who are getting married..... its a decision for life... there are many i know who have rushed into it some cos of the parents pressure and some cos of the pressure from the ones they are in love with..... but marriage is never going to be successful when it is done under pressure.... so chose wisely.... think well before taking the big step... parents can be understood and also made to understand !!
• India
17 Dec 08
Yup you are right yar...what you had mentioned here is worth while i will take your valuable suggestion and make clear decision soon.. Thanks for your response...:)
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Marriage is definitely NOT for someone who is NOT READY to be married. If it makes you think that your freedom will be gone, ........then YOU are not ready. Someday your mind may change and then you will know that you are ready.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Oh yes, and happy 100th post!!
• India
17 Dec 08
Thanks yar...:) Yup you got my mind right...i am not yet ready to face it..wana settle bit then only i can think about it and get in to it.. Thanks for your response...:)
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
if you're not ready to get married yet, then don't. marriage is a whole lot of responsibility. Once you're married, you are now looking after not only yourself but your family. You have to be responsible enough to raise a family or otherwise, things will just torn apart. Being an understanding and mature person is also a great contribution to a successful marriage.
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• India
18 Dec 08
Yup you are right..i can't get into it before i am fully confident in it...i need sometime to get settled yar...thanks for your response..have a great day...
• India
14 Jan 09
Ya thats true that there would be less freddom but the bond and the relationships would be different and i think that you would really enjoy after getting married and if your spouse is good it would really be fun and exiting and you surely have to marry one day or the other and i dont think thats bad for you to get married now and try to make it a good one for your spouse also and dont show that you were not willing to marry but forced to do so... Happy Mylotting
@adhavgeek (252)
• India
18 Dec 08
hi rajesh what you have said about the marriage...same thing going in my family..i think next year,my parent are planning for my marriage..till now they didnt asked me..marriage comes under one circle,once we enter into that circle we cant come out that..that circle is called family..first for leading one family or getting marriage,we have to settled down in good job which can run family smoothly..so that we can have peaceful life..plan and settle your life first and hold hand of a beautiful women.... ;) thanks adhavgeek
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• India
18 Dec 08
Hi machi..same problem for you too va good..keep on going lets we face together the tough..:)
@j47lee (740)
• Canada
18 Dec 08
hmm if u meet the rite person.. maybe u will change ur mind abt marriage.. i avoided getting married till the age of 26.. wen i met my hubby... my parents were so worried i wouldnt get married.. and i had this idea that if i marry.. i would lose my freedom.... but then things changed... and im married now... but i feel so nice to have someone with u..
• India
18 Dec 08
Wow good one yar..still now i never had such thoughts as you mentioned here my mind is looking for my dream pair..you started my imaginations to flow forward let me see i can find some one as you did..:) Thanks a lot..!!!!
@vidhyagowri (1973)
• United States
14 Jan 09
By looking at your age in your profile, I personally feel that you are not ready to get married. I feel men should be atleast 28 to get married, so that they will well settled financially to face the future commitments. If you are 23 or 24 and they girl will be definitely younger than you, she may not be that matured to face the marriage life if she is not atleast 23. When I got married I was 23 and my husband was 30. We are doing pretty good now... Good luck.