Why are guys terrified of getting married?

India
December 18, 2008 11:06am CST
Hey no offense meant:-)...However I have always noticed that in movies it is depicted as if guys are scared of getting married. To name a few as an example ..."Nine months", "Miss.Conception", "The Bachelor"..Etc.... This happens even when the guy believes that he has found his true love...Why is that?... My guy is definitely not like that....THANK GOD!! But may be thats because he is 29 yrs old and in India, most guys are married by that age. Can GUYS in mylot tell me the reason behind why guys shy off when it comes to getting married? :-) Girls are alsio welcome to share their opinion. Thanks in advance... HAPPY MYLOTTING!
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• United States
18 Dec 08
LOL...yeah it isn't just guys. My friends used to call me "The Runaway Bride". I had been engaged 4 times before I met my current husband. I didn't mund meeting a guy, falling in love and talking about the future. Once he started talking about actually getting married I was ready to bolt. I am happily married now, so I don't know what I was so afraid of. I guess I just matured, and maybe those other guys weren't right for me.
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@jess368 (3368)
• United States
18 Dec 08
Wow engaged 4 times! Well for your sake, I am glad you waited for Mr. Right!
• India
18 Dec 08
LOL!!!! Did you hubby know about your previous stunts before proposing marriage to you? :-)
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@jess368 (3368)
• United States
18 Dec 08
I dont think its just guys. I cant even picture myself being married right now. If my boyfriend asked, I wouldnt know what to do or say! I think its all abuot a person being ready for that huge commitment! I think its sad how quickly people get married then divorced. Its so easy to get divorced now a days I think more and more people are gettign married before they are ready, because its so easy to end it if it dosent work out. I am one of the few who wants to wait and see where life takes me, I dont want to ever be divorced, therfore I wont be gettign married any time soon! So In my opinion I dont think guys are the only ones who are afraid to get married.
• India
18 Dec 08
I think that is a very sensible reply:-)....So COMMITMENT is the key word is it...
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@jess368 (3368)
• United States
18 Dec 08
Yes, I guess it is! (although I do belive I am commited to my boyfriend of 2 years, just not ready to be for a lifetime)
@jzqt27 (542)
• Canada
19 Dec 08
im a guy and im not worry about marriage. to me, i believe guys afraid getting married because, once a guy is married they can't party all the time, hang out with friends more, relation with another girl, and have to think about his partner feelings when doing something and most of all being tied down.
• Singapore
19 Dec 08
but if you're married and in love with you wife, why would you want to spend time drinking when you have your lovely wife waiting for you at home...maybe in bed. maybe it's a misconception on my side but if you're in love with someone, don't you want to spend every waking moment with him or her?
@walou242 (16)
• Tunisia
19 Dec 08
Well guys always doing whatever get to their mind...drinking..clubs..dating.. and when he gets married he'll not be free anymore.. he 'll not be able to do what he used to do before..thats it
@mjoy07 (202)
• Philippines
19 Dec 08
well, it is not that men are afraid of marriage. They have a lotsa lotsa concerns about married life. One thing maybe is that they are afraid to fail. For those guys who is really sure about the girl he want to settle down, he don't have doubts, he marry her. But if a man doubted his feelings for the girl, that's the time he'll think of he is really ready to commit hiself to her? is he really wanted to grow old with her? there's a lot of questions in minds same as girls do right?
@anonymili (3138)
19 Dec 08
My brother recently got married at the age of 36 for the first time. His wife is 31, they dated/lived together for 3 years before getting married. My mum was going nuts for a good 5 or 6 years before he met his wife wondering when he was going to settle down. Like many guys of his generation in the UK, they've discovered the joys of Playstation and Xbox and Wii and the others (too many to name) which is a major distraction in their lives as well as nights out with their buddies down the snooker hall, pub, clubs, etc. Where do women fit into all of this? They don't really, until guys are ready to make a commitment to a woman they will run scared from long term relationships and some guys just mature quicker than others. I am very happy that my man does not feel the need to go hang out with his friends every Friday night and get drunk or gamble but is happy to spend time alone with me or with our mutual friends - although sometimes I DO wish that he would have a guy's night out so I could have my girl's nights out without feeling guilty about him sitting at home alone LOL!
• India
19 Dec 08
Oh I think they are more terrified of losing their independence. However, after getting to know about western lifestyle, I think this is a typical phenomena of Indian male only. Women are partially responsible for this too. Indian mothers for one, expect their sons to forever stay as momma’s son even after marriage. And Indian wives expect their husbands to always tow their line, no matter what the husband personally feels. I think the Indian male gets scared with this two-pronged attack and hence wants to stay bachelor as long as possible. Look at the western male…they are into family and fatherhood so early without much to worry about.
• United States
19 Dec 08
They will have another "mother" is the myth anyway. And some i know, are worried that another girl might come along.
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
LOL!!!..... alas to man kind for terrifying in getting married. Actually as a man and my opinion in this case anyway, girl/lady/woman after got married they are more on 'botheration' and sometimes make man feel drowned and shackled. That is why guys like to choose for late marriage. Make things more worse, when guys are still unstable in financial standing. So, what would you say then?