Silly mom!

@ElicBxn (60821)
United States
December 21, 2008 4:46pm CST
Well, my sister and uncle got into town last night and I asked her to call me when she was up and let me know what the plans were for the day. Well, they decided to go to mom's and when my brother got there with the car, we'd go on to his place. So, after changing the cat boxes, I drove over to mom's and we visited some before my bro got there. then we went over to his place and had dinner, he called it spagetti, but it was rigitoni and tomato sauce, it isn't spagetti if you don't twirl it.... then we sat around and visited, watched tv and stuff until mom decided it was time for me to take her hom. I guess she thought I should take her home because everyone else, except for my bro's girlfriend were staying at his place and I had to go home north. Buuuutttt..... I can't get her into my van, and right now, even if I could get her into my van, I have NO place to put her wheelchair because I already have my client's wheelchair in there! And my van is stuffed full of stuff! So, after nagging me, my sister finally decided to take her back to the Manor and at that point I also came home. I was about family-ed out anyway, you know, when you aren't used to living with family, you can only take so much of a good thing.
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9 responses
21 Dec 08
Hi ElicBxn, Sometimes you just feel you want to stay home and not want to go anyway, I will be spending Christmas day here at home with just me and my hubby but I will have to go to my sisters's on boxing day to drop the presents off, I don't like to stay away from mylot too long and I know I will be there the whole day, what a bore. Tamara
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@ElicBxn (60821)
• United States
21 Dec 08
I would love to just hang out with my sister, but not enough to hang out with my brother as well...
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@camomom (7537)
• United States
22 Dec 08
Sounds lie things worked out anyway. Glad you had fun.
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@ElicBxn (60821)
• United States
23 Dec 08
Oh, things are working out, but I just hope that I can take as much of my brother as I'm getting. I swear even his girlfriend commented on his temper tonight! A previous girlfriend asked if he was always this bossy - I said "around us he is."
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@camomom (7537)
• United States
23 Dec 08
That's not good. Maybe someone should put him in his place...he shouldn't treat family like that.
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@ElicBxn (60821)
• United States
30 Dec 08
He just gets worse. I just avoid him. I seem to set him off worse than anyone else. Probably because I know he's full of it.
@bunnybon7 (35900)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Dec 08
well, this time of year i think everyone is getting familied-out you know? so i see your point.hey did we make a new word? familied-out.
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@ElicBxn (60821)
• United States
23 Dec 08
I can take a lot of my sister, but my brother, well, I'm about brothered out... I once posted a serious called travels with my mother and bother - I mean brother....
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@kykidd (6820)
• United States
22 Dec 08
Mom's are really amazing. Sometimes I wonder what makes my mom think the things that she does. She comes up with this ideas or opinions, and assumes that they are mine. Sometimes she even tells people that I say things that I don't, just because I don't argue with her about a point when she makes it. Even though I don't really agree, I just prefer not to say anything. Anyway, yesterday I was talking to my mom and she was wondering what to do with this ham bone. I said, make soup beans (for those who aren't from the South), that's pinto beans or ham and beans. So later I'm talking to my sister, and she says, we're going to have all of this food for Christmas why do you want Mom to make soup beans. LOL It was so funny. Naturally I had to tell Mom not to make the soup beans when I'm in town for Christmas, just to freeze the bone and make them some other time. AAHHH, she is so silly!!!
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@ElicBxn (60821)
• United States
23 Dec 08
Talk about taking some one toooo literally! I swear that there are times when I just want to say, not to mom because she wouldn't get it, but to my brother, "don't over think this!" I can say one thing and he'll be totally literal when I have said it dripping sarcaum! And when I'm being totally serious, he makes a joke.
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@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
22 Dec 08
Hang in there. It always amazes me how many people don't realize the amount of work involved in doing things. Dealing with a handicapped person is very stressful on the best days. Some people just don't understand, especially if they are not accustomed to dealing with it everyday. I find myself getting irritated when my children come to visit. I love them dearly but sometimes I feel they have taken over my space and no matter what I do they get in my way or on my nerves. I even feel guilty when I am glad they go home. I want my nice Quiet home back!
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@ElicBxn (60821)
• United States
22 Dec 08
Yeah, I guess I love my brother, but honestly, we wouldn't be friends, we're too different. At least, in this case, he knew I couldn't take mom home either, in fact, the only one who didn't seem to understand, that nagging me wasn't getting me to take her home, was MOM!
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@ellie333 (21029)
22 Dec 08
Hi Elic, A classic case of family assuming stuff without asking first. Reading this was it your brother that took your mum to his place? I can see why as you were going that way you was assumed to be designated driver but if asked in advance you could have maybe moved your clients wheelchair out first and got help getting her in your van. Seasons Greeetings anyway and I hope you enjoyed the day and the spaghetti/rigitoni. Huggles. Ellie :D
@ElicBxn (60821)
• United States
22 Dec 08
Without my roommate, none of us are strong enough to get my mom up into my van! My brother is 5'6 and maybe 150-170 lbs to my roomie's 5'10 - 350 lbs. And she's strong, but even SHE has trouble getting mom into the Odyssey! My brother has the only "car" in the family, my sister had to fly down and my niece drove down in her truck, so unless my sis had rented a car - and she didn't - the only way to get mom back was in my brother's car. And, unless I wanted to drive her home, then come back and switch cars, I wasn't going to be able to do it. Besides, my sister wanted to spend more time with mom.... It was funny that mom kept telling me after I told her I wasn't doing it that I drive her home.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
22 Dec 08
Oh I know what you mean ElicBxn. I can only be around my family for so long before I have to go off somewhere to regroup with myself or I'd go insane!! lol I think it's because I can't hear well at all and too much going on around me kind of makes me dizzy. I have to have so alone time to get my thoughts about myself then I can return to the "party" for a little while before I have to GO home! lol
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@ElicBxn (60821)
• United States
22 Dec 08
I have to take something to do when I go places, because I get bored, I guess other people can sit around and watch tv with out doing anything else, but I generally mylot or some kindda craft.
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• United States
30 Dec 08
Elic I agree we had 30 extra people here for Christmas eve dinner and I had to go in to a quiet room and sit down for a while. I get dizzy spells from the loud noise and also from a lot of movement. I was glad when they all went home at 11PM. I was keyed up but tired.
@ElicBxn (60821)
• United States
30 Dec 08
I don't think I saw 30 people except at mom's and that's because she lives in a health care facaliity. I probably didn't talk to 30 different people even then.
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• United States
1 Jan 09
I spent more time in the kitchen cooking then anything else. I did talk to some people. I did not talk to all that came through the door. I will tell you I was too busy. I did have help from my hubby for some things. I did ask my daughter for help a few times. I did get mad at one niece because she was being a loud mouth but that is normal for her. I do not know why I got angry. All in all it was ok but tiring.
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@BarBaraPrz (19598)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
22 Dec 08
Well, at least you got to spend some time with your family. The only one in my family that bothers to invite me for Christmas is my cousin, who I was never close to when we were growing up. I'd just as soon stay home alone, but she won't hear of me being alone at Christmas.
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@ElicBxn (60821)
• United States
22 Dec 08
I think that's sweet that she doesn't want you alone for Christmas, even tho you weren't close. I think that if my sister didn't come to town, I probably wouldn't spend time with my brother. In fact, I expect that when mom goes, I will barely see him, pretty sad huh? I do have friends I can rely on for somethings, I know that my roomie's folks would want me out there if I didn't have other family things to do.
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