Don't fight with loved ones....for your own good!

India
December 22, 2008 3:01am CST
A and B were good friends. A and B quarreled bitterly one fine day. A and B were very cold to each other after the quarrel. However, A and B were still fond of each other. Ego wouldn't allow them to patch up the quarrel, kiss, and make up. After a few days, B died suddenly. B's death was not A's fault, of course. It did not stop A from thinking that it was all his/her fault for fighting with B. A actually felt guilty for the rest of his/her life. This is just something bothering me for a long time. I may sound a bit death conscious when I say this; but, death can come anytime. Even the healthiest people can drop dead at anytime. So, why quarrel unnecessarily with friends, family members, and loved ones? What if they are suddenly separated from you before you have had the time to make up? Won't you feel guilty the rest of your life? Just a thought! What do you feel about this? Cheers and happy Mlotting
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10 responses
@XoyyoX (1055)
• China
22 Dec 08
It's an ideal idea that loved ones don't fight with each other, for if A and B are beloved ones, and if they disagree one another and one of them argues with the other, if the other one says nothing and ignore his/her anger, then A will feel that B care nothing about A, then the relashionship will break up. :)
• India
24 Dec 08
Hehehe...you are right.. this is exactly what happened in one of my previous relationships. Thanks for your response!
@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
23 Dec 08
You have good points here. it is a thing to put it in mind. We don't know what will happen in a day so, it is always good to have good relationship with our loved ones and friends all the time. Patch up whatever is the problem between us so that there will be no guiltiness or self blaming if somethings happen like of that with B.
• India
24 Dec 08
Hi Bebs, you are absolutely right! :) Thanks for the response
@Polly289 (269)
• New Zealand
22 Dec 08
I agree. A friend once told me she never quarrels with her husband before he leaves the house because anything might happen and she would hate to think her last words to him were harsh ones.
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• India
24 Dec 08
I have the same fears myself. :)
@shamsta19 (3225)
• United States
22 Dec 08
I have been saying for some time now, as the economy gets worse, tensions are high. People are on edge and I implore all my friends and family to recognize this. I know that there will be arguments and they all stem from lack of money. When the crisis is over some of these friendships will not be able to be repaired. PLEASE DON'T LET MONEY TEAR US APART! I have honestly been saying this for months now. I don't think people were seeing what I was talking about months back but now my words are ringing in their heads. I have been struggling to keep my immediate family together and just got into a serious argument with my father just the other day. It's all because of money! It is a shame that things are the way they are but even if they were not this is still important for any of us to remember. We never know what tomorrow may bring. Great topic, thank you for sharing this.
• India
24 Dec 08
You are right! Most of these arguments have money at the roots, which is a shame really! Cheers and thanks for the response
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
22 Dec 08
It's always good to keep control of your mouth, otherwise it can get you in big trouble and the last person you can forgive is yourself. I never like to leave a situation with negative thoughts, sometimes it can't be helped. Just for yourself you should try your best to repair any damage you can control LOL
• India
24 Dec 08
You are absolutely right, savy!!
• Philippines
23 Dec 08
You are right, I agree. I try to be patient with my loved ones, finding mitigating circumstances. It can be trying at times, but I think it's worth it.
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@jzqt27 (542)
• Canada
23 Dec 08
it is a very good idea not to fight with your loves one. fighting with someone you love sometimes is a good thing, because it shows them that you care (depend on what the argument is about). for me i intend to not to argu with anyone in my family, especailly not with my girlfriend. i had some bad experience with that before and it was very bad.
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• India
22 Dec 08
I believe that life is too short to keep on fighting with your loved ones. Life is too unpredictable, you would never know what would happen the very next moment inyour life so I believe that we should try to patch up as soon as possible because it's better to fill your life with sweet memories rather thhan to regret later on as in the case of the story narrated by you. Though even fights are part of life they add spice to your life, you tend to realise how much you love each other. But it should not be for long duration, we should always keep in the back of our minds that life is too short and at the end of it how many friends we have matters most, we earn people not money. So, take care of your loved ones and keep relationships above ego n be happy!!
@Mitraa (3188)
• India
22 Dec 08
A excellent topic by you indeed! Just keep cool your mind and maintain a good distance from any sort of quarrel and ego-clash. Life will be then very beautiful and well enjoying! Otherwise, ignoring this idea is just loss of life-time! Please take care and have a good day!
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
22 Dec 08
if theres no fight we dont know whats our mistakes.sometimes fighting is also good to know each other well.