Do people change, or do I perceptions change?
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
United States
December 22, 2008 6:03pm CST
I know that a lot of people have old friends that they no longer talk to or are no longer friends with because they think they've changed too much. Some people even say "Oh they changed for the better, but I feel so poor next to them" while other say "They changed for the worst, as in their behavior stinks". Well in all honesty our life is about finding ourselves and being happy. Some people find themselves and realize that what they were trying to hide is truly who they are, and they won't hide it anymore (me for instance, I found out once I found my true love that I am who I am, and that I won't be fake anymore), some people change from who they were to something else...
Do you stop being friends with someone because they've changed, or because your perception changed?
I've stopped being friends with people because I've changed, and also because my perception of who they are changed.
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3 responses
@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
23 Dec 08
You are right on this one I guess. I have been wondering too if all the people whom I used to call friends don't seem right anymore. Then there are some people who really change. Like the ones who are good to you at first and then start acting weird. But your perception of them remains the same. It's all very confusing and all we can do is stick with the people who you think are good to stick around with.
bourne
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
23 Dec 08
I forgot about people changing from when you first meet to once you get to know them. It's strange how people act a certain way until they are comfortable with you. I appreciate the response!
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@lifesavr_89 (212)
• United States
23 Dec 08
when i left for boot camp i swore to myself that i wouldn't change. when i came home for the first time, i was walking around and listening to the people around me. all i could think was "are people really that stupid?" i thought wow things changed around here when i was gone. then my friend said nobody changed but me. when i thought about it, she was right. but she had changed too. most of them changed. it's a two way street.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
23 Dec 08
Boot camp can change you, but your right people do change even if only slight ways. I appreciate the response! Have a wonderful day!
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
26 May 09
This is a really good discussion and I am sure that there are a lot of people who are not friends with people anymore either because they think the friends have changed to much,or the friends think they have changed to much,and I know there are times where people think someone has changed for the better,and some think they have changed for the worst,and I agree life is about finding yourself and being happy even though some people can not accept that,and I know sometimes people will find out who they are is who they were trying to hide,and then they will not hide it anymore,and I am glad that when we met you found out who you are,and I have stopped being friends with a few people,and I think mostly it is because I have changed and because my perceptions of them have changed,because I used to see them as good friends,now I see them as bad friends,who never cared about me as a friend,they just wanted to see what they could get from me,and I am glad that you have helped me see who I am,and that I can not let people walk on me anymore,and you helped me see the truth about one of my oldest friends,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day,good luck with all your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting.
