Is it every relationship that will lead to marriage?

Nigeria
December 26, 2008 4:35pm CST
Some people find it difficult to accept when they find out their relationship is'nt leading them to anywhere. I have some dengerous statements like 'if you dont marry me I will kill myself, especially from the girls. I believe some girls might just be good as a girlfriend but not as a wife. In my town you will come across some girls that will get to anywhere to make sure they are not 'USED'. They will pretend to be a nice girl, just to convince you that they are wife material. From my own point of view, I don't think every relationship will lead to marriage. The worst that can happen to a man is marriage out of sympathy. What do you think?
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16 responses
@liisafiat (660)
• Latvia
27 Dec 08
I think that it stinks to Fck* woman without any future plans together with her. Because when a man touches the body of woman, HE accept HER and ONLY HER, and it means that THEY might have common children in the future. MARRIAGE IS LIKE A CONTRACT WHERE MAN AND WOMAN AGREES TO MAKE COMMON CHILDREN TOGETHER. If You make love with a woman before marriage, it STILL makes the SAME SENSE: "I accept You and the babies that WE will have together, and WILL marry You." But if he stands up afterwards and says: "Hey, You are beautiful and I just did my duty to make You happy, but I don`t want to marry You and I cant see the `material` for wife in You..." well... Then why don`t You say directly: "I AM a jerk and AFRAID of responsibilities, and You are guilty because You agreed to make this type of relationships with me, and NOW: go and make ABORTION- I don`t want Your babies." Cool, right?
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
I think not..It depends on the partners,it's not really necessary when you had a long relationship it would end in marriage. There are instances that in the end you will end up in other persons hands..you know what I mean??
@lourry (72)
• China
27 Dec 08
well,personally most relationships will not lead to marriage no matter how long it has been or how much you have ever invested in. marriage is more complicated and serious than that simply two young love each other and more aspects would be added and considered such as his/her background,income and family. in other words, an ordinary relationship is far from marriage. in fact, you can image that if every relationship results in marriage, everyone has merely one chance to falls in love with their partner before they get married and how can that be true or realistic? hence, from my point of view, it is certainly not that case.
@aakay4u (799)
• India
27 Dec 08
hi yes all relationships dont lead to marriage.however i cant see a point in continuing with a relation where you are looking for a girl friend only and that female is looking upon as your hubby.its better to clear the doubts initially itself.i would prefer more openness and frankness in relationships so that such problems dont occur.
• Australia
27 Dec 08
no, not always. maybe the parents could disapprove or there's just no spark or you aren't 100% in love.
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
27 Dec 08
It's true not every relationship will lead to marriage. It's not faithful to marriage out of sympathy. Marriage without love is not acceptable for me.Marriage is not a gift to show the sympathy. Man can respect the women by treating her good and fair. When you help her out , it is a way to show your sympathy. Tell her directly and to be a friend until she can accept that the relatioship can't lead to a marriage.
@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
27 Dec 08
I don't think that every relationship will lead to marriage. In my country it is quite common to live together for many years without getting married, and I think that is fine if people prefer it that way, and it is also fine to get married if a couple prefers that. But sometimes a couple don't agree about marriage and only one of the persons wants to get married for instanse the girl. Of course she will be disappointed, if the man says no, but I don't think that it is a good solution to marry out of sympathy, because that way they will both will become unhappy.
@o_utsider (372)
• China
27 Dec 08
There are relation,friendship,and effection in the world.I do not think every relationship that will lead to marriage. Thoes girl like you said,(if you don't marry me I will kill myself),I think they are very pity. If someone is not belong to me,I will give up him,and going on find my Mr Right until I find him.
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
hello nwike1561, Indeed, not all relationships will lead to marriage. Not even those who have a long engagement. Or even those who are about to get married and suddenly they realized that they're not really love each other. In those case however, is better than tieing the knot and after a few weeks or so they're realized that what they did is not right. At least, they're still free and can accept they're mistake easily. That they're not really meant for each other. Maybe they're just enjoying each others company and that they thought they're already in love to each other.
• India
27 Dec 08
No I don't think every relation will lead to marriage. But only some go up to marriage. Out of frustration they say "if you dont marry me I will kill myself".. that true man..
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
People should not always think that way - that all relationships should lead to marriage. On my part, I never thought that my first boyfriend would be my last or someone that I would marry. I do not even believe in the saying "meant to be"...Every relationship though is something to be founded and established not because it is meant to be. If the relationship do not work despite the fact that you invest on it, take the risk to let go and commit into another. Love and relationship is a process. One must not threaten the other to stay in the relationship when things are going wrong. Loving is unconditional and unselfish. Relationship should not be made and founded by out of sympathy and obsession. A relationship should not lead to marriage without mutual love, respect, understanding, loyalty and trust. The marriage won't last long when those factors are missing in a relationship.
@Frederick42 (2019)
• Canada
27 Dec 08
No, not all relationships end up in marriage. Nowadays, there are so many couples which never get married. They just stay in a relationship.
@SHAMRACK (8447)
• India
27 Dec 08
Dear friend, My marriage is wreck and I am in the verge of divorce and now in the family court. Hence feel that all girls are not same as all women. Each man will be having a perfect women in this world somewhere and if not got their marriage life will be a mess. Moreover I agree that all relationship do not lead to marriage, but all marriage lead to a relationship if lasted long. Yes, that is absolutely right some girls are good friend but they are not fit be wife.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
27 Dec 08
no I don't think every relationship between man and woman will or should lead to marriage. I believe that marriage is a commitment, if a couple is not ready to commit themselves to each other, they are not supposed to marry because in the end they won't be able to keep their promises anyway. I am not saying that living together is an answer, because in my culture it is not allowed for unmarried couple to live together either. But then again it all goes back to the couple it's their life together it's their decision to make. I think marriage out of sympathy is also not a good thing for the woman. I am sure she will know this later on and will not enjoy marriage life at all.
@prasanta (1947)
• India
26 Dec 08
I do not think, all relations have to end in marriage. Marriage is one type of relations, because that is not all inclusive there are other types of relations. Any relation that pleases both the people involved is good, including any extra marital relation without harming others. Even a prostiute can be good to be a housewife. It all depends on the situation, environment, society and many other factors. I do not hold such prejudice that a person is used or not. Because, it is just an external action for a few moments, sorry, I cannot use the word 'Used' for that. I believe in this age of science this type of thought is ridiculous.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
26 Dec 08
I agree not all relationships lead to marriage. Some relationships just help you learn about yourself. And what type of person may be the right fit for you.Sometimes we have to kiss alot of frogs to find that prince or princess.