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the door of politeness.... - gf ahg gpa auh aphperwu
@xboxboy (5578)
December 27, 2008 4:45pm CST
I get angry by the smallest of things. Manners cost nothing.....yet if i hold a door open for somebody with bags or are elderly i expect the common curtesy of a 'thank you'. If i do not i have been known to yell after them " no need to thank me!" Am i overly touchy? Do you get annoyed at silly thinks? please reply and let me know.........or i will get so ANGRY!!!!!!!! (Just kidding!)
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• United States
27 Dec 08
Hey xboy, I get the same way, and you are completely correct. Manners cost nothing. When someone, God Bless em', holds the door open for me I can't Thank them enough because it's so unusual today. It's not only saying Thank You, it's just even holding the door open for the next person which I consider part of your upbringing today. You are NOT overly touchy. I think Manners are long lost in todays rush, rush world. I replied as quickly as I could so you don't get too upset. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You for bringing this to everyone's attention. How was that?, lol!
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@xboxboy (5578)
27 Dec 08
what a pleasent and polite reply! by gosh, the rest of mylot will have to go some to better this iconicly polite response!
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• United States
27 Dec 08
What can I say, my father's family was from Wales. Politeness (ahem, sometimes) usually runs in the family. All kidding aside, I really do think alot of it is how you were raised. After what I see today, not much going on in the parenting department. I'm glad you're different and you notice this. I get really aggravated when people EXPECT you to do things for them, I don't care how old you are, and then don't even have the common courtesy to say Thank You. OMG! Can't figure out what's happening in the world today, scary thought. My kids of course are completely grown up (well sometimes, haha) but wouldn't even think of NOT saying Thank You. It's all in the raising hon. Plus, I didn't want you getting too upset with this discussion and wanted to throw in a few extra Thank You's, lol!
@xboxboy (5578)
27 Dec 08
what annoys me even more is the rude elderly! there the ones that are the first to complain and should no better!
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• United States
28 Dec 08
Lots of things get under my skin, depending on the day, but right now the one that stands out in my mind is "being entitled." Some people believe because of their position in the community, they are entitled to certain things. For example, some people of certain ethnic minorities believe that because their ancestors were enslaved or slaughtered or otherwise mistreated, they deserve special treatment. They expect to get away with swindling or taking advantage of other people or with breaking the law because wrongs were done to their ancestors. That was decades or even centuries and generations ago. That wasn't you they did it to and it wasn't me who did it so let's both just move forward and live for today. I'm not talking about the people who want to remember their cultural history and learn from it or honor it. That's terrific! I'm talking about .... I am part Irish on my mom's side and if I were the "entitled" type, I could say British people owe a debt to me, personally, because their ancestors made laws to keep my ancestors poor and hungry. It's completely irrational and aggravating.
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@Rosekitty (19438)
• San Marcos, Texas
27 Dec 08
Since I'm a Kitty everybody fluffs my tail..lol.. But you are right i don't think people have manners anymore..I asked some young boys if they needed any help when they came into my store and they barked back NO WE ARE JUST LOOKING...I said back to them well if you are needing any help with funds since i know people are short on cash now i can bring prices down the same boy said..CAN"T YOU HEAR ME I SAID I DON"T NEED YOUR HELP..now i'm Pisssed so i said back..Do you talk to your Mama like that i bet she's proud?..He got mad and stormed out and said I"M NEVER COMING HERE AGAIN..I said good don't until you learn some manners..those kind will never learn and instead of apologising he acted like i was hurting him..
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@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
1 Jan 09
Well, you really cannot expect the best from others. But at least in my part, I expect them to perform their job (for those snubby workers) or be nice towards others (as citizens). What irritates me is when I’m trying to make things work in a better and faster way but the other party is giving me the face wanting to oppose in every way doesn’t want to come down. That really pisses me off.
@littleone3 (2065)
28 Dec 08
I know exactly what you mean i also do the same if someone can not be bothered to thank me. One example i can give is that about 2 weeks ago i was walking through my local town and there was three children one in a pushchair as we walked past the pushchair tipped. My daughter caught it and put it back upright. The child was not strapped in and would have probably hurt himself if it had tipped right back. Then an adult came running over obviously a relative and started having a go at the children. But did not offer my daughter one word of thanks. So as we walked off i said in a loud voice so they could hear me well you would think they could have said 'Thank you' Like you said manners cost nothing.
@balasri (26553)
• India
28 Dec 08
You are absolutely normal xboxboy.I get mad at rude and crude people too.
@chulce (1540)
• United States
28 Dec 08
Actually, no, I don't see a reason for you not to be a little upset. In today's society we have a lot of people that expect to be catered to, it is possible you just seem to end up with a lot of them around you. This of course deals with where you live. Another factor, a lot of people these days are afraid of their own shadows. Thanks to the media, they have blown things up to the point that many people have become extremely fearful. Well, because of their fears, they feel safer not talking to anyone. We moved for a huge city to a small town and wow what a difference when it comes to manners and courtesy. Around here, you walk through a parking lot and people say hello or well given the time of year, Merry Christmas even if they don't know you. Men do hold the door for women here and you do here the respectful Thank You. It is a world of difference. What ever you do, don't stop being polite you might rub off on someone and they will return the favor. Keep your chin up, as the saying goes "don't sweat the small stuff".
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
28 Dec 08
well that would be common courtesy to say thank you if someone hold the door open for you are do some other kindiness for you,if a person don,t thank you they are just beening rude i think
• Australia
28 Dec 08
I'm used to the rudeness of others, so I ignore it. It would be nice if more people thanked me for the things I do for them, but some people are just to self absorbed to think about anyone but themselves. Despite the rudeness I put up with, I still keep being the polite person I was raised to be. Makes me the bigger person .
@enognis (38)
• United States
28 Dec 08
I think people are severely less 'gentlemen-like' as my parents put it. They are never holding the door open for others. They don't say God bless you, thank you, so much so that I think that they should go into another bathroom than the one with the "Gentlemen," sign on it. I suppose the same could be accredited to 'ladies' and 'lady-like.'
• United States
28 Dec 08
This reminds me of a recent trip to Wal-Mart. As I was leaving, there was a mother with 4 or 5 small kids. One of them, probably about 5 years old, was holding the door open for her and the rest of the brood. I was right behind them. I held the door with one hand while trying to manipulate the buggy out the door. The little guy turned around and came back to hold the door for me. I smiled, and said, My, what a polite young man you are! Thank you, very much! He smiled back, and said, You are very welcome, lady. Merry Christmas! And, with that, he was off to catch up with his family. I thought to myself, Thank goodness there are parents out there who still teach their kids manners and politeness. I just hope that the very young kids who ARE being taught this continue to carry it with them as they go through life. I don't let it bother me too much when people are rude. When I do run across an extremely rude one, I just think to myself, Karma, baby, Karma. Then I smile to myself, and go on about my business.