how to make him stop running after her?
By oyenkai
@oyenkai (4394)
Philippines
December 29, 2008 7:08am CST
I have a close friend who keeps on running after his ex girlfriend. The ex girlfriend cheated on him twice and the last time made him seriously depressed - he really changed. He's no longer a happy person and I'm beginning to hate him for being so stupid because he keeps on working hard to get the ex girlfriend back. I know that even his parents are intervening and at the same time give him enough space for himself.
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5 responses
@liisafiat (659)
• Latvia
29 Dec 08
Wow. Where this type of men are hiding? That girl must be stupid, if she can not accept the man who wants HER even after she CHEATS HIM with 2 other boys!!
Gosh. Maybe tell that boy that there are other girl out there who deserves HIS attention much more then this one girl, who keeps on avoiding him? Maybe she is afraid because of his attention?
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
it is true that men like this are quite rare, liisafiat. nonetheless, no matter how rare they may be, there are still some of them around. time will come when you will meet one yourself. when this happens, you just couldn't understand why this is so. what is in that woman that makes the guy so crazy for her.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
29 Dec 08
the best way will be to relocate this man. bring him to another country. this way, there is no way that he can ever run after that girl anymore. now is the best to work on this. communicate with the man's parents. perhaps they have a close relative who can accommodate the guy until he has recouped himself.
almost always, providing persons with obsessions with a new environment cuts the obsession. so go ahead, discuss this possibility with the guy's parents.
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@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
29 Dec 08
We might think he is stupid... but he thinks he is doing the right thing... and that can be dangerous... the best thing is to tell the parents to take you friend somewhere far where he can live for a while... a place where he will not see the girl... nor have communication with her... and a place where there are plenty of girls that can keep him company... if these will not make him forget his ex girlfriend... i do not know anything that will...
@callcenterchick (94)
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29 Dec 08
well for me.. the best thing for you to do is to talk to his or her ex... and discuss to her what is happening. so she could understand it.
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@clickmind (93)
• Philippines
29 Dec 08
Give him inspirational books as Purpose Driven Life by R. Warren, or It's Not About Me by Max Lucado, and the likes... These books try to take away one's focus from himself, and towards God -- thus, "It's not about you, It's about God" mentality afterwards...
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