advice for a friend dealing with an ex love

@shanemre (357)
Saudi Arabia
January 3, 2009 12:33pm CST
My friend came to me today, she told me that she saw her ex boyfriend with his new girlfriend today. My friend told me that she felt pain in her heart seeing that scene. She is now in a relationship, and as a matter of fact, she got into a new relationship before her ex found a new love. She told me that she is so much happy with her relationship now, but there are times when she still think about how it could've been if she and her ex are still together. When she told me this, I am a little bit puzzled with her situation, and I felt a bit bad for the present boyfriend. I don't know what I have to tell her, what I told her only was, "Get over it. He's so none of your business now." I don't know if that helped even a bit. Have you experienced something like this too? If you were in my place, what are you going to tell her?
2 responses
• United States
3 Jan 09
I agree with the last post, what she is experiencing is completely normal. Emotions are connected to the heart, be thankful you have a friend that is so loving and caring. We can't turn our hearts on and off when we want to. Because she felt this way doesn't take away from what she has with her present boyfriend, it will take time for her not feel anything for her old boyfriend but that doesn't mean she is wanting to go back to the old one either. It just means she is human with a caring heart.
@shanemre (357)
• Saudi Arabia
3 Jan 09
Thank you for responding, I will tell her that too. :)
• United States
3 Jan 09
I know its hard watching someone we care about get hurt, but we have to remember that each of us has to make our own choices in life. It is good she has such a caring friend, I hope it helps.
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
I think it's just normal, when you love the person no matter if it's already the pass, you get hurt, and being emotional.Call it hung ups. Nothing wrong with it, dreaming when your a wake hahaha, questions lingers to your mind what if. Usually that happens when you still have feelings even a bit. If my friends situation is like that, I'll just tell her move on, anyway there is someone who loves you more, better that him I guess. You both should be happy with your life but separate ways. Pains will help her to be stronger, she will move on alone. Anyway it's a close book, finished!