Brteakup At Christmas????

Im sad to say that I know EXACTLY what your going through. About 2 years ago I was in a relationship with a guy that I loved so much. We were going out for about 5 months when things started to get shaky. We split up and got back together on and off for the next 3 or so months. Everytime we would break up I would tell myself that I didnt love him anymore and he wasnt worth it, but I knew in my heart I was only lying to myself. No matter how many bad or hurtfull things he did to me, I couldnt bring myself to realize that I was only setting myself up for disaster. When we finally broke up for the final time (When he started seeing another girl) It was the worst. It probally would have been fine, but he would call me constantly and flirt with me at school. I just couldnt get over him. Ive finally realized now that he felt that he had me wraped around his finger anyway, so he could toy around with me while he was with his "new fling" also. Best of both worlds right? It killed me. I finally did get over him though and now Im in an amazing relationship. My advise to you (all though it may be extreamly hard) is to move on. You want someone who will treat you like you deserve to be treated, not someone who your just settling for. People like him arnt worth it. Their only going to hurt you again. Trust me, there actually are guys out there who arnt jerks (though it maybe hard to belive =]) Hang in there, I hope things work out for you =] -Clair

I think where emotions are involved, relations between men and women are very vol ital. I guess you need to figure out how much you are willing to put up with. Also ask ourselves why you love him? Make a written list, pros and cons that's what I do when ever it's not clear to me how to solve the problem

I think it's not easy to move on when you still have communication with your ex. If you wanna finish it close the chapter and let go, that will be easier to mend your broken heart, to forget everything. Men has their ways, it's just up to you if you will allow yourself. Why not go straight to the point with what you feel and tell him, it's useless, I don't wanna repeat the same mistake, even though I still have feelings, still it will be easier for you and me if we don't talk anymore. Then being like this to your self. Or weigh your feelings, ask yourself what you really want. You might just be trap with your feelings. Love is blind, your blinded with feelings, and emotions. Good night!

If you and him already broke up. I think it is time for you to stop having communication with each other. On this case, if he still calls, you find ways to not answer his call, inform your family to say that your out or sleeping, whatever you can think of. Because you two talking with each other is not really good thing when relationship has ended. Remember you have to help yourself. I have a question for you though? If you two will get back together, will you be happy? will you be at peace having these thoughts that he is just playing with you? Can you stand all the feelings that he can give, whether it's good or bad? Are you ready for going over and over again, breaking up then being together- it's just a damage of emotional sanity. Well my friend, if your answer is YES on all of these, then continue I guess you can still tolerate him and eventually will get back. But if your answer is NO, help yourself, get rid of him in anyway that you can.