How do you think of this kind of family?
By Youjia1227
@Youjia1227 (25)
China
January 5, 2009 8:44pm CST
My family always treat money as the top priority of many.When they talk about my future spouse,they infuse the concept that fortune and the political power are foremost,and the saying-- water is equal to love, is native.I had consider it was one kind of love and care of them before,Until once I was in hospital for a serious disease not long ago.I remembered it clearly when I told them about this and I maybe have to do an OPS. ,They just chillily to ask when and where but anything else.Till the day I went into surgery they had arrived at the hospital.When I went through 5 hours operation and be awake the next day . My mother ask me the first question-- I just take little money here,do youself have enouth? .Suddently,I can't think anything but just felt my heart breaking up.Why ask me If I was ok but just this?And the next day my father left because his business.I feel hurt against.Is business more important than his own daughter? The insinuativest thing is my brother.He asked nothing during I was in hospital but an absurd question -- Do you have enough money to pay charge ,Do you need me to give you some money? ,when I had pay charg myself and left hospital.
I really felt disappointed with this family.
3 responses
@coly20032003 (428)
• China
6 Jan 09
Oh, I really sympathize what you met. I do not think money is so important in our life. Trough sometimes money really play an important role in our life, we need money to buy the essential things in our life. But there are many things far more important than money, for example, happiness and health.
@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
hi youja!
well, actually, there is nothing wrong with being concerned with money. i used to think before that why bother with money. but well really, we have needs and we can use money to help other people.
however, when it is preoccupying us too much, then there must be something wrong with our principles. money, although trite already, is not everything. we will all die someday.
but i guess, as a parent, i would also like my daughter to marry into a good family, if not rich, at least the husband should be responsible and the family has a responsible concept of money.
anyway, we should strike a balance as with everything. we cannot overdo everything because something gets sacrificed. in marriage, it is love, when money is prioritized. you have a choice to follow in your parent's footsteps.
OR YOU CAN BE DIFFERENT. :-)
God bless you! take care always!
