Is it weird for someone who is 20 to have never had a girlfriend or is this norm

@GAGAN187 (287)
India
January 7, 2009 1:09am CST
I have one friend who is 21 years old and strangely never had a girl friend and i am a little worried about him because he is 21 .is he normal ??? whenever i talk about girlfreind or anything realted to this , he always shies away so what to do ?????
5 responses
@regal_aeros (2606)
• Singapore
7 Jan 09
i think he is normal... well, i'm 22 and i have never had a boyfriend before. Is there a problem with that? Must i have to have been in a relationship to be counted as normal or am i abnormal because i haven't been in a relationship before? And that doesn't mean that i'm les or anything. I do love men too. Just that i haven't met one that makes me want to go a further step than just friends. As a matter of fact i have tons of guy friends. But we're all maintained being just friends because, well, i don't want to destroy our friendship with a boy-girl relationship that i know will not last. I guess i should say that they just don't fit into the criteria of MY man. well, i don't know about your friend. But from what you say maybe he is shy. Probably he already likes one of he's girl pals that already know him for him. But i always feel that guys who are shy most likely would end up with a girl that began as just a friend first. Because this way he would already be comfortable with him. Well, just relax about your friend. His time will come. No point pushing him and making him uncomfortable and all right.
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@GAGAN187 (287)
• India
7 Jan 09
well the problem is that we think he loves someone ,by noticing his gestures ,but he never tells to anyone . so i dont want my friend to lost the girl whom he loves the most in his life
@mikkymyde (184)
• Nigeria
7 Jan 09
maybe he is afraid and if not,you need to help him know what he is missing...if he is to shy to talk to girls,then talk to one for him..guess you can do that lol
@GAGAN187 (287)
• India
7 Jan 09
he even dont want me to talk on his behalf , he is so shy that even if she loves any girl ., he would not tell anybody even to his close freinds may god help him
• Philippines
7 Jan 09
It is normal but a little weird, with this kind of era, yea. But that doesn't mean a person is abnormal or something.. He/She is just not ready yet to find the right person. It's just a matter of choice..
@stiener (735)
• Singapore
7 Jan 09
Then I think I will fall into your category of "Weird" as I started my first relationship at the age of 24. My first girlfriend is also my last as she is now my wife. I think it depends on the society. If the social norm is to get into your virgin relationship latest by 19 years old. Then 20 years old and still single would be seen as abnormal. I would think that it is weird when he / she sticks to the same gender as him / her and getting very intimate at times may be "weird" to me. Maybe he is not ready for a relationship yet. Cheers and Happy MyLotting...
@vipinl (802)
• India
7 Jan 09
Ya you can say its strange, but there would be lot of people like this who have crossed 20 and never had a girl friend..lolzz