parents VS. students...

@grace24 (1050)
Philippines
January 8, 2009 11:30pm CST
did you ever feel that sometimes being a student is very hard?because sometimes your parents are forcing you to the things that you dont like?for example,in your studies..your parents are making decisions for your own good. Sometimes, they even pick the course that they think that is right for you..
4 responses
@dodo19 (33308)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
9 Jan 09
All the time! For a long time, I've always had my parents' voice in side of my head. Every time I made a decision, their voices were "dictating" my decision, to some extent. So, I now realize that I wasn't really doing things for myself. Well, when it came to some things, anyway. And every time I would ask for advice, and would tell them what I was thinking of doing, or something, I felt like they were thinking that it wasn't good enough. If you get my drift.
@grace24 (1050)
• Philippines
20 Jan 09
yeah..we have the same problem..
@dodo19 (33308)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
20 Jan 09
I really find it annoying. Now the challenge for me is to get their voices out of my head and replace it with mine.
@amitksing (1323)
• India
9 Jan 09
Yeah, this is very true. As students or kids, we dont like this. But we need to understand that our parents have seen the world for much more time than us, they know about things much better than we do and that whatever they decide for us, is for our good only. But parents also should try to understand their ward. They should sit and discuss things with them rather than just putting on to them.
@shanemre (357)
• Saudi Arabia
9 Jan 09
Not in my case. My parents are strict, but it never came to the point when they decide on which course I want to take. They have been very supportive in my school and the course I have chosen to take. If there is one thing they don't like about the things I am doing... it's my being a writer. They have been discouraging me to write because it's not related to my course. But then, since my heart is telling me that i want to write, I try to make my parents see, that when I am writing, I am feeling free... and I am becoming myself. It's just a matter of defense, let them know that you will never be happy doing something that you don't like. If you will choose a course because they want it for you... it will be difficult for you to take really, because your mind and your heart will be focusing on the course you really want to take and pursue.
@lilaidi (155)
• United States
9 Jan 09
No, that's never happened to me, but I do feel like that I may end up being that kind of mother. My son is in the 4th grade now and its hard for me to help him with his homework because I want him to do things the way I would do them. I feel so controlling. Like if he has an idea for his project, I want to change it because I want it to be the best project...I usually back down from acting like this before its too late though. He turns in all original work that belongs to his creative rights!