if your best friend ask money from you ,what will you do?

@Tinna_He (300)
China
January 12, 2009 2:30am CST
If your best friend ask money from you ,what will you do ?and the friend had borrowed money from you and haven't repaid.now she ask again,what can i say if i want to refuse?
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@thanxiang (126)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
If you are afraid that your bestfriend might not pay you back,then it's better to be honest with him/her.But if you have lots of money,then let him borrow and dont expect if he/shes going to pay you or not.Just give,and it will come back to you,that's biblical.
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
12 Jan 09
yes,if i have lots of money ,i will lend.now i am unemployed and the cost of my baby is also burden.so i think i must tell her honestly.
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
Yeah,your baby is the most important.Just tell your friend that you dont have enough money this time.
@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
Hi there! Oh I have been in that situation many times. A lot of people from friends to neighbors borrowing money from me. If people don't pay me back and lends again I refuse to give them the second time until they pay me back their first loan and that's what I tell them. As simple as that. If you are in such a situation where a friend is borrowing money from you but still has former credits you can tell her/him the truth. Don't be afraid or shy to tell your reasons. Actually, you don't have to explain anything why you don't want to but if you fear that you might hurt your friend's feelings, just tell her you don't have extra cash. But if yo. But really trust your friend, it's up to you to lend some money. Hope that helps. Ciao!
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
12 Jan 09
thanks.it is helpful for me.many people will ask which one will you choose between friendship and money.But why we need to choose?does it necessary?if the friendship can be changed by money,i think the friendship is not the true. thank you for your help again,
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@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
Well I am glad that I have helped you in any way. I agree with you that value of friendship shouldn't be compared to money. Friends who borrowed money must understand too that they need to pay though you're friends and if ever you don't lend them some money, they shouldn't get mad or feel disappointed. They should take it maturely. Keep posting!
@sts2007 (29)
• India
12 Jan 09
Well if he /she really a good friend and asked for money then without expectstion that he/she will return you, you pay her/him. If you borrow money from him/her then try to repay that before he/she asked for the same. Then only your friendship will longlasting.
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
12 Jan 09
thank you. i hope my friendship can longlasting and won't be changed by money.
@penny64 (1106)
• Australia
12 Jan 09
I wouldn't lend to anyone who had borrowed from me in the past and not paid the money back. However, if my best friend was really in need, I would give her the money if I could afford it.
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
12 Jan 09
yes,if my friend tell me why she need such more money ,i will consider and discuss with another friend who also rent the money to her .we are hopeful to get the reason.But "nothing" is the only word we can get from her .so i can only say sorry.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
12 Jan 09
I used to have friends that would ask me for money a lot. We're no longer friends anymore. I was a push over, would give them money because I cared. I think that if your having this trouble you should just be upfront about it, if they get mad and upset, and don't later come back to apologize then they're probably just using you. When I say upfront, I mean tell them that you can't let them borrow more until they pay you back.
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
12 Jan 09
Referring to the money ,i always feel shy to say.If i borrowed money from others,i will remember all the time and repay them once we got the salary.My another friend is different from this one.If she has no money ,she will tell me that she has no money now.when she repaid a part of liabiliters,she will tell me she will repay the rest when he get the next month's salary.if this friend want to borrow money again, i will lend her again for no reason.
@JOIEMARVIC (2342)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
Debt are created to be paid. If you dont feel lending your bestfriend money,then tell her.Be honest.If your really best friends,she/he will understand why you were not able to lend her.An about the money she borrowed before that she has not paid yet,remind her,especially if your bothered by the idea of her/him not paying you.Communication is important for things to be understood.Dont let that issue turn out to be a grudge as time goes by.Fix things and misunderstandings NOW rather than feel sorry about what will happen in the future because of negligence.
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
12 Jan 09
thank you ,i know how to deal with ,thanks .
@vipinl (802)
• India
12 Jan 09
I think that goes on in friendship.. there are people who haven't repaid me.. also there may be those whom i haven't... thats what for friends are made for. I will still lend money if anyone of my friend requires it may be he didn't repaid me the previous one... money matters but friendship matters more then that. happy myloting
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
12 Jan 09
i know friendship is important.And this friend is not only asking money from me ,she also asked others .and we don't know why she need so much money.when we ask her,she say nothing.she has a job and has no need to rent room for live.so i puzzle why she need much more money.
@CherishC (249)
• United States
12 Jan 09
well my bff has asked me for money, and she repaid me. I don't think she'd ever do that to me. Now if one of my friends, that I knew wouldn't repay me back, I'd tell them something about it. be honest with them...
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
12 Jan 09
thank you for your input. i told her the situation that i still be lack of money.