Do you feel you can trust your friends when you confide in them?

United States
January 12, 2009 9:25am CST
It seems like more often than not, I'm burned by my friends. I have ONE friend who doesn't repeat what I tell them, nor do they use what I say "against me" or judge me for what I talk to them about. These qualities in the rest of my "friends" seem to be lacking, but I can't figure out why. It's hurtful and, to be honest, I've found myself distancing myself from them more and more as time passes. I guess it's a defence mechanism. It's difficult for me to trust new friends I meet because of what keeps happening. Do you feel you can trust your friends when you confide in them?
2 responses
@leonag (33)
• Canada
12 Jan 09
I have a couple of friends who are the exact same way but opposite if you know what I mean. One you could tell anything to but will use the information against you, the other you cant trust to keep anything to herself. My solution was to stop telling them anything but mundane stuff like what I was cooking for supper. I would get rid of them but I have been friends with one since the first grade(I am 32)and the other is my cousin.
• United States
12 Jan 09
I have found some friends who I go to tend to end up telling others and end up burning me. I have a few friends whom I can tell anything who will say nothing to nobody, but later when I tell them other things they bring up my past and judge me. I will say I have just 1 or 2 friends whom I totally trust. They do not judge me for anything I say or do and will give me advice. I dont mean the advice that most give saying what want me to do. Rather more like telling me how they see it and look at it from other views as well. Then give me a quick talk about what they would do, but end the end just let me make my own choices without tring to force things upon me.