What do you do when you can't do anymore?
January 18, 2009 5:09pm CST
Ok my mother is a great person deep down but she has some issues who doesn't? My problem is that she has never been there for me or my other two sisters she gave me up to my grandparents when I was three days old, and she has came around when iwas growing up but most of my childhood was full of broken promises from her. My question is I still do everything for her. I let er use my car when she wrecked hers from drinking and driving and she tore it up and when it broke down she wouldn't help to pay to get it fixed. I let her move in with me when she got kicked out of her house for not paying her rent I let her move in with me and my two children then when i got behind on everything she just up and left and I got my utilities shut off and evicted from my house. I'm only 22 and have a one year old and a two year old but i feel like i am raising my mother also. What should i do with this situation should I just quit helping her since i get nothing in return or should I keep being a great daughter and continue doing this?
• United States
19 Jan 09
Oh my goodness. I don't like to hear stories like that, it just breaks my heart, I can't imagine what you're going through. It sounds like you're mother is using you and doesn't want to do anything for herself. I hope this isn't the case because no one should have to raise their a grown person if they are capable of helping taking care of themselves. I mean it's understandable if she was just living with you and helping you pay the bills, or just leaning on you for a little while until she gets herself on track with a job to support herself. I don't know the whole story but it really does sounds like she's taking advantage of you. I think you should think about your kids first and just make sure your kids have a place to live, food to eat and other needies. Did you sit down and talk to her about how she's treating you? Do she feel bad for the way she treats you? Talk to her first about how you feel and about her getting a job and supporting herself. Explain to her that you can't keep taking care of her when she won't even try to help herself. You have kids to think about and you are responsible for your kids well being. Life is hard enough as it is, you are only 22 years old with 2 extra bellies to feed. If she doesn't want to change and help herself, you shouldn't help her anymore. You wouldn't be a bad daughter at all, you have already proven that you love your mom by helping her, she has to understand that your kids come first and you can't help anyone that's gonna use and abuse you. When she takes from you with no intentions of helping herself, she's also taking from your kids. I hope everything works out for you. If you need to talk just PM me anytime. May God bless you and guide you down the right path.