How do you discipline your child?
By dorisday1971
@dorisday1971 (5657)
Philippines
January 20, 2009 5:54am CST
I don't spank my daughter but I scold her sometimes. She is the kind of girl who at three years old is always trying to smart us older ones. I always explain to her the reasons why I get angry at her because this is so far the best way to make her understand her wrongdoings. It's quite hard to discipline children.
How do you discipline your children?
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4 responses
@coolmailpankaj (338)
• India
6 Feb 09
I am not a parent as if now and hence might not be very right person to say anything on that but if I do understand kids a bit, which my mother says I do, then offering them the things they desire the most if they follow your instructions can work.
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
it's good that even if you are not yet a parent you give time to read discussions like this. i'm sure, when the time comes that you become a parent too, you will have enough information about discipling children.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
i have four, and now they are all teens. it is really not that easy to disipline kids but you need to show them that you are the boss. if you let them get away with little things then they will try to charm you toget away with the big ones. thats the reason why some professionals on child caring saying that we parents need to show tough love to our children. i make sure i give them what they want as long as they give me what i want. so far i dont have a child that out smarts us older ones so i think your isa tough cookie to break lol. well patience and a lot of talking might help. still you have to tell her that you are the mom and she is the daugther. goodluck with you doris. i am also 38 but my children are all teens now.
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
I agree with you. As parents, we should you have try our best not to be outsmarted by our children. We should be the role model to them without being authoritative and abusive. It' also better when we become their best friend. God bless and happy mylotting.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
yes i try to juggle that all, a mother, a sister, a best friend to them and i always say that i can be there worst enemy too lol. 
. i think opening communications is the best. talking can make a big difference. when we are talking i making it sure that we have fun as well. thisway children listen more if you do that. nagging will just make it worst.... but i also nag at them specially if too much is too much already.
. i think opening communications is the best. talking can make a big difference. when we are talking i making it sure that we have fun as well. thisway children listen more if you do that. nagging will just make it worst.... but i also nag at them specially if too much is too much already.@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
It took us long to have a child and I was already 35 when I gave birth to our only child. It's an advantage on your part to have children at a younger age because the age difference between you and your children isn't that far. You can really be best of friends with your children.
@rtslvtwy (1088)
• Malaysia
27 Jan 09
That's the way to go for disciplining children. Spanking is never a good way and it's also abusive. I also talked to my daughter politely at first but if she still does not want to listen, then I will stressed the point to her and explain to her what certain things she can and certain things she cannot. But, worst case would be that I would get angry and scold her with a stronger voice and be serious in what I say. Basically it's to mean what we parents say and say what we parents mean.
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
Sometimes it's hard to control our emotions. We are just human beings. I also sometimes can't control my emotions that I scold at my daughter when I am not supposed to do it. But I really avoid spanking her.
@clintmaratas (9)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
I took some short courses on Rights of the Children back here in the Philippines... The Philippines is one of the signatory to CHILD21...United Nations Convention of the Rights of Children (UNCRC)and i learn a lot...
I personally believed that disciplining your child should not the issue...rather than disciplining oneself on communicating a child that would make him/her more attentive to what you want to convey or message you want him/her to absorb...Love has its own manner of discipling a CHILD...love your kid...let her feel how much you love her...if you scold her tell her the reasons why...i very thankful to hear that you don't spank you kid...and its really good that you explain to her why you got angry...
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
Welcome to mylot. I like what you have said here. it's good that you have shared what you know.
God bless.
