Would you rat out a friend who was breaking the rules?

@dawnald (84146)
Shingle Springs, California
January 21, 2009 2:28pm CST
Well this person isn't actually a friend any more, but just saying that he was... He works in the office I used to work in. When I started there, I was kind of annoyed to find out that we were getting charged $35 a month for parking. Should have asked for more money. lol Actually we had the choice of not paying it but then we would have to scrounge for parking on the street. Anyway, parking is somewhat limited, and there is one street that we aren't allowed to park on. This person doesn't want to pay (or can't afford to pay) the fee, so he parks on the street. One of the streets adjacent to the office is private and parking is restricted to people who work their and customers of the businesses there. This guy parks there because it's easier to get a space and because he starts later than a lot of the people in the company, so it's not being watched so closely at that time. If the company knew about it, he'd be warned and eventually ticketed and towed. Would you say anything to him? Would you say anything to the company?
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@aem1542 (43)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I think that is pretty lazy, that or he just dosent care. I dont think i would say anything to the company but maybe say something to him about it. He probley wont stop but if he dosent at least you have him a warning right?
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jan 09
Or he doesn't think the rules apply to him! I wouldn't say anything to the company and I wouldn't say anything to him either (because if the company found out, he would think I had turned him in!)
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• United States
21 Jan 09
For this... no I wouldn't say anything to him.... he knows exactly what he's doing. I wouldn't say anything to the company either since it's unlikely he's actually hurting them by parking there. I would just let the law of natural consequences work and when he eventually gets towed he'll probably wish he'd paid for parking.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jan 09
Yeah that's my take on it too!
• United States
21 Jan 09
I don't know that if you said anything to him that it would do much more than tick him off depending on how you brought it up to him. If you want to be sneaky and tell the other company an anomous description of the vehicle & plate number that's up to you, but I would do this w/o confronting your friend as you'd be the first to have the finger pointed at. I would just let it go and the day he does get found out, I would just commment something like..."gee I was wondering if you'd ever get busted doing that"
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jan 09
Ah well if I was really going to do that, I would have done it 3 years ago before I moved away. lol don't even know if he still has the same car!
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@hildas (3031)
21 Jan 09
He will get caught out eventually dawn. I dislike people who do this sort of thing though. They think they are untouchable. He really will get caught out himself, so he will learn the hard way. Sorry you have to pay for parking at work. I think it should be free for yous.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jan 09
Well... The good news is that at the office that I have moved to, we don't have to pay for parking. The bad news is that we don't have covered parking here like the other office does and it gets really HOT in the summer. Oh well... Yeah I think he will get caught sooner or later. And it annoys me that he thinks the rules are only for other people. But not my problem...
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@hildas (3031)
22 Jan 09
Yes he will get caught. I never thought of how hot your cars get. I was in Egypt and the cars where hot inside and you could not even sit in them. Thats awful then. So what do you when you need to drive it, if it's been in the Sun all day?
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
I have a sun shade for the windshield. It helps some...
@Valenas (1510)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I'd leave your friend/ex-friend an anonymous note just warning him (even if he already knows) that he could be fined and towed for parking where he is. I wouldn't tell on him unless you would get in trouble for knowing that he parks there and not doing anything about it (which I don't see why you would get in trouble, so that's just hypothetical). If not, let him get in trouble.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jan 09
Tempting, tempting... No I couldn't get in trouble for that, I'm pretty sure.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
21 Jan 09
He'll eventually get caught. I wouldn't say anything. You know...... he'll probably be irate when he gets towed too! Can you imagine how much that whole thing could cost? Not worth it in my opinion!
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jan 09
Yeah it could be pretty expensive! He would get a couple of chances before actually getting towed though.
@Humbug25 (12551)
22 Jan 09
Hi ya dawny I probably wouldn't say anything because this sort of thing tends to turn around and bite you on the butt!! I believe that what goes around comes around and I dare say he will get caught out eventually. I think that provided you are doing what is requested of you then no one can point the finger and accuse you of not doing what you are told. Sometimes when people get caught themselves they will also rat out another friend or colleague whilst they are at it. I used to work somewhere where we only had limited parking and we used to get people parking in spaces that were reserved for our clients so that clamp used to come out on a regular basis even though there was a huge sign stating that anyone unauthorised to park there would be clamped. We caught a few students a couple of times but they were so cocky that they deserved it!!
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
It probably would bite me on the butt. Anyway, not doing that. Nope...
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
22 Jan 09
I think you needn't to say somthing to him or the company. Someday, he will be found out . He deserves to be ticked off as his behavior againsts the rule.After that , he'll learn the lesson. If not, he will pay the price.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
Yeah somebody will eventually see him doing it...
@pickwick (858)
• India
22 Jan 09
I will find out the person who likes to gossip a lot or who is a complaint box in the company and tell him that this fellow has been breaking rules by parking on the street.I will also tell him not to tell this to anyone as its a secret.This will make sure that the company bosses get to know about it as we know that a secret is something which one person tells another , the another can't resist telling someone else and this continues till the whole world comes to know about it!
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
rofl I love how you think!
@makingpots (11922)
• United States
22 Jan 09
No, I don't believe I would rat him out. It is really unfair, what he is doing, that is for sure. But it has been my experience in life that things such as these are resolved better when allowed to take there natural course. I don't see a reason for you to risk getting involved.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
Yep, completely agree...
@CRIVAS (1820)
• Canada
21 Jan 09
I wouldn't say anything to him, it is obvious that he knows he's not supposed to be parking there. I think it's very unfair and I personally would report him to the company. If you are afraid of getting him fired, you could always write an anoyoms note to the private parking place and I am sure that they would be more than happy to deal with it. I think this guy needs to know that he is not above the rules and that if everyone else has to deal with it, so should he.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
It annoys me that he thinks he's above the rules but on the other hand, I don't think this is a big enough thing to fink on somebody.
@jambi462 (4598)
• United States
21 Jan 09
No way I would ever rat out a friend or just plain rat on anybody because I was taught early in my lifetime that no one likes a snitch. My step father instilled some strong values of how to gain and retain respect from others and he always told me that no one likes a snitch so I followed his advice all of my life. I've actually taken the blame for my friends because friends are basically the stem of my loyalty. I will always try and do as much as I possibly can for my friends because they just make me feel so much better about myself then when I'm alone. If you go down for something and save your friends usually they should be willing to thank you in full if not more in the future but the truth only comes out in the most heated of moments.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
I would agree with you in this situation. But if it were something that could, just as an example, land me in jail if I didn't say something, ie it were illegal, I would probably speak up. If it were a friend doing it, I would warn them first though.
@mac_bb (156)
• United States
21 Jan 09
i would say it does not immediatly effect you, and im sure he knows what he is doing. now with that said as far as the company is concerned no one likes a snitch, and i feel that people should mind there own buissness and not play that way. cause after all what goes around comes around. never know when your car may be towable and that person is looking for revenge.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jan 09
He knows. But yeah I wouldn't snitch. And really he's not doing any harm. There is always plenty of parking over there. It's just that if a lot of people did it, there wouldn't be.
• United States
21 Jan 09
First I would approach him and let him know just in case he doesn't the rules. If he shrugs and just continues than I would go ahead and tell on a friend but to me once a person and I are working during the time we are working we are simply co-workers. As a employee of a business you are supposed to follow the rules that they set up. I would have no problem in telling on someone who is breaking a rule. I would give them the benefit of the doubt and talk to them first.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jan 09
He knows!