What is your biggest fear?
January 23, 2009 2:48pm CST
My biggest fear is to be alone, sort of like lonely, not just alone. When I was little I used to go to this playground that had colorful ladders and under them there was something that looked like a cage, and I would have nightmares that I was in that cage and couldn't get out and I would scream and call out for my mom but she couldn't hear me, and I would stay there for days and die. That's sounds horrible to be a little girl's nightmare, but it was my nightmare, but I'm not afraid of being in small places. I been living by myself for 2 years now, away from my family, sometimes I would cry myself to sleep, I didn't want to be alone. But I'm all better now, my boyfriend has his own place we were thinking about living together, but I can't get used to his bad habits and I bet there's things about me that would bother him. So now I'm living with my baby girl she's 6 months old. She keeps me company.
• United States
23 Jan 09
Being lonely seems like a fear most people I have, sorry you went through that. I also have the same fear, well sort of. I have been with my bf for six years now, but he lives in a different state, 500 miles away, so we do not see eachother very regularly. My biggest fear would be for something to happen to him before we have the chance to live together and start our lives together. We love eachother very much and plan on spending the rest of our lives together. If I ever lost him before I got this chance I would be devastated.
23 Jan 09
That's pretty sad. What I call family is my mom and my 2 daughters that live with her, because I don't really get along with my brother and my stepfather. And I live in Brazil, my mom lives with my kids in Boston, MA. That's really far! I would be devasted if anything ever happened, i can't even think about it I don't what I would do!!!
25 Jan 09
Darkness. It was a long long time before I got used to sleeping in the dark. It creeps me out and it feels different. Even now that I'm older, I still have a night light on when I got to sleep. I don't think I'll ever get over that fear. And for nightmares, I always have one whenever I watch something slightly scary - either that or I wouldn't be able to sleep at all. Thanks for the response on my discussion! BTW I think it's a good idea that you're STILL thinking about moving in with your boyfriend - I mean, that you haven't done it yet. It's a big step and it's not right for someone to do it simply out of loneliness. And you mentioned that you haven't gotten used to his bad habits - if they're bad then you should never get used to them :P You have your own principles and I hope you stick to them :D
25 Jan 09
Thank you for your comment. And I sleep in the dark, but I get a little scared sometimes, like when I see shadows around the room, and hear noises, it kind of creeps me out, like a little kid. And I have a lot of thinking to do before I move in with him, we argue way too much.
• United States
9 May 09
I think the nightmares you had as a child probably created your fear of being alone, and no one enjoys the thoughts of being lonely. I, personally, love living alone. If I get "lonely," I can invite friends and family over, go to visit them, or go to a restaurant or the movies or the library, just to be around others. I am happy that you got over your fear, and yes, a child is a lot of company : ) If you are unsure of living with your boyfriend, then I think you are very wise not to. Good discussion!
10 May 09
I'm living with my daughter only, she's about to turn one in June, it really didn't work out with her father so we split up. But when you become a mom it feels like your friends go away because you can't really go out places with them, I don't know maybe it's just me.