MyLot Friends List???
By MySpot
@MySpot (2600)
United States
November 9, 2006 8:46am CST
How many of you use the friends feature? How do you determine who to approve or deny? Have you denied a request and why? Are you requesting friends to be added to others' friends list? How do you think it plays into earnings, if at all? How many myLot friends do you have?
I couldn't deny someone even if I didn't know who they were. I assume they've read or enjoyed my discussions and/or responses, because that's how I choose my 'requested friends'. I see it as a compliment.
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15 responses
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
18 Nov 06
i usually aproove everyone,but i must say only a few are really my friends,the rest i don't even know where they popped in as they never replied to my discussions,nor i did to theirs..well.i denied one time a request,because i criticised that person for something,i can't remember what..anyway it was an important thing that he did to me,and when i told him i should give him a minus for being mean he requested to be added to my friends list and i denied,as that is not the way i wanna make friends here...in rest,yes i often check my friends profiles and try to reply to as many of their discussions..but very few of them do the same thing for me
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
3 Dec 06
i deleted many of my friends by now,and i will keep deleting them step by step if i see they are totally inactive in my discussions ,or that they have no discussions that get my interest..it's useless to have hundreds of friends in your list..for me is much simple now to go through my friends discussions,when i have few..it's easier to keep up with everything
@MySpot (2600)
• United States
1 Dec 06
I'm going to take a day to go through my friends list and narrow it down because I was just accepting everyone, but a lot of the people don't post on my discussions and/or I wasn't interested in theirs.... I think maybe some people thought we earned more for our network of friends (maybe we do???) but I think it was meant to be used in combination with the other features, like 'discussions my friends started'... which I use faithfully now!
@ossie16d (11821)
• Australia
3 Dec 06
I approve everyone who asks to be my friend. Then I check out their discussions and if any are appropriate I will respond immediately. However, I also expect that my friends will respond to my discussions.
If I find that the friend has no discussions that are of interest to me, or they are spamming, doing a "cut and paste" response then I will delete them. Also if they do not respond to my discussions I will also delete them after a time.
Every time I come to myLot I check out to see if there are any responses to any of my discussions and make a comment if there are. Then I go to my friends and start responding to their discussions. Rarely do I have time to respond to any other discussion, which is why I think my friends list should only include members who act as friends. :)
@ossie16d (11821)
• Australia
8 Dec 06
Actually it is interesting when you start to read some of the discussions started by friends, and there are times when the eyes are really opened. Now if someone is abusive to those who respond disagreeing with an opinion, I hit the delete button to get them off my list. There is no need to be abusive and it is worse when it is unwarranted.
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@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
19 Feb 07
I actually just accept whoever asks me to be their friend. Ive just been here for a month and i thought it would be nice to gain more friends. In a later stage, maybe i would clean up as well those who dont do much of anything here in mylot who are in my friends list.
I oftern go through the discussions my friend started before aything else and then the rest follows. When im really desperate for a good topic to reply to, i go look at each profiles of friends whom i commonly see around my discussions. There are times i miss their discussions they started and dont get the chance to reply to them unless i really go through each one.
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@MySpot (2600)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I recently went through my friends list and deleted the inactive members. Anyone who hasn't signed in for over a month was deleted. If they would return and request to be added again, I would re-add them.
I have stepped away for two weeks at a time but I'm assuming the ones who haven't been around in over a month are probably not planning on returning.
@FrancyDafne (2047)
• Italy
26 Feb 07
Wow MySpot, how many questions....
I am little ashamed to ask people to become my friends, so I prefer that myLotters who read my messages and like my opinions ask me to become my friends. I'm always happy when I see that I have some friends to approve and I always approve them, why not to approve them? Everybody has the right to share his/her opinions, and to me every opinion is welcome, even if I don't agree at all (and I am a VERY strange person, it's very difficult to agree with me....)
The question: "How do you think it plays into earnings?" is very interesting and I'd like to know more.
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@MySpot (2600)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I'm not sure if anyone answered ALL of them.... sorry guys...I'm so demanding ; )
Are you shy? Why be ashamed? I find it very flattering when I'm asked to add someone as my friend. It's usually a compliment like saying you enjoy their discussions, responses, personality or interests.
You'll see my opinion on the 'friends list has changed since this discussion started : )
Some people have a 'criteria' for choosing friends. I totally agree that everyone is entitled to their opinion. For the most part, I just accept everyone but now I will check them out and then go back to accept them... If I read really mean remarks made by a 'requesting friend', I would have to deny them. I hate meanies and bullies. You might have people that will request to be added and then start spamming you and that's annoying and rude.... course, they're easily deleted... it's like hanging up on a phone solicitor though.
Honestly, I don't think that the algorithm takes into account our friends list. I'm guessing that it probably is for our own convenience, by helping us find people whose discussions we are interested in reading and replying to.
@cfrdjlilbrat (248)
• United States
7 Feb 07
i use it and those are the first discussions i reply to. As you can see, you are on my friends list. *winks* Because i do use my friends list to pick the discussions that i post to, i will add everyone that requests but after seeing the type of discussions they post, i may remove them. i do not like "meaningless" topics or ones created just for a penny. So, if i see the one word answer discussions, i will remove that person from my friends list. Does this make me a bad friend, you think?
@MySpot (2600)
• United States
7 Feb 07
No. That makes sense.
I have a hard time hitting the delete button, myself. I admit that I have deleted a couple of 'meanies' and I remember deleting someone who had a lot of 'this or that?' type discussions, had never replied to any of mine and had many hundreds of friends.... I figured they wouldn't miss me ; )
@sweetcakes (3504)
• United States
13 Nov 06
i use the friend feature and i try to
answer as many discussion they have as i can
and no i haven't denied anyone. who ever wants
to be added to my friends list is more than welcomed.
@prasad1961 (5597)
• India
18 Nov 06
Any member requested for friendship accept it genarally. Nothing is going to be loss. But as a member you've to go and request a new friend depends on some catagorical levels. See the members profile and the level of discussions and number of best answers awarded to him by different members. Then only request him as friend. BEWARE OF SCAMS. Most of the members were accepting best answers mutully intentionally.
@praveenjena (1304)
• India
18 Nov 06
i do use the friends feature. but i have only 4 friends. i do keep in touch with them. yes i have also seen a few discussions about this and found a lot of others using this feature too.
@isasice (2015)
• Iceland
9 Nov 06
I approve friends if I see the have posted or replied intellectually on here. I deny requests from people who keep posting friends requests saying they promise to reply to your posts but are only using them to get responses to their own discussions. I send requests to people I belive I have something in common with and who write interesting posts on here. Once in a while I go through my list of friends and reply to their discssions and give them + ratings for good comments. Most of the people on the friends list don't comment much on my posts but that doesn't matter to me. Some are more loyal than others.
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@cpamanda (693)
• United States
18 Nov 06
I use the friends feature. One friend is the one who referred me. Others I have requested much as you did because I was interested in what they had to say and they seemed to be responding to my posts a lot. We seem to be interested in the same things. I have not denied anyone as of yet. One person has neither denied or added me afetr a week, but I am not taking it personal.
@MySpot (2600)
• United States
18 Nov 06
I have someone 'in limbo' too. I requested them because we shared a lot of common interests and posts between us. I'm wondering if she has gone from myLot cuz I miss us racing for topics. (great minds think alike)
She knows who she is, so I won't mention names.
@crofter9 (150)
•
18 Nov 06
I like the friends feature.
If you are only going to be on the site for a short while it is so quick & easy to check out new discussions that friends have started.
As you get to know your friends you can also look at who they have responded to and you'll get to see the type of discusions they/you are interested in.
You can always delete a friend if you find you are not compatible with them
@honeybfly83 (1021)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I use the friends feature. I have only requested one of the friends I have and the rest have added me. I try to respond to my friends discussions as often as I can to help their discussions. I have 65 friends. You are one of them Myspot! :P
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@vinaykant (812)
• India
2 Dec 06
i never think about it i approve every one who request to me, i do not think there is any need to deny any one on mylot.
@cfrdjlilbrat (248)
• United States
7 Feb 07
Do you go to their discussions and reply to all of them? If i accepted everyone of them and answered every discussion then i would not have the time for the types of discussions that i enjoy.
@lauczi (962)
• Poland
14 Feb 07
i denied today a freind's request. the reason was that i didnt like the person. so i shouldnt make him my "freind". always before accepting or denying a new person i check her/his discussions and response to interesting discussions. this time one discussion of the guy i denied was like: why god gave more brain to boys than girls. it showed how primitive the person was. maybe he just wanted to be schoking but he is Indian so i think he really thinks that.
