Meeting the person you love everyday.

@atish19 (180)
Mauritius
January 29, 2009 11:20pm CST
Is it necessary to meet the person you love everyday? Don't you think its boring than meeting each other after a couple of days to make the want and love increase? My girlfriend and i are together for the past three years. And in these past threee years we have been meeting each other everyday. Sometimes i get bored and quarel with her, but i don't know how she can manage to meet me everyday. Now i feel like i'm getting bored. And the most important thing is that she is not letting me going to work. I've told her to stay at home and let me go to work, and will meet her twice a week. She refused and said that i don't have time for her now and that i am fed of her and start crying. Its obvious that we have to meet each other but not everyday. Everything has a limit. I tried talking to her but in vain. Beside we live far from each other. Don't you think it is a waste of time and money? Going to have lunch everyday in restaurants? Would you be able to cope with her if you were in my place or leave her and what would you tell her?
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@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
I understand your predicament. Meeting everyday with the love of your life seems to be the most sweetest thing on earth but also irritating when it comes beyond the limit. For me, even if I love the guy so much and want to spend the rest of the day with him, I also understand that he has his own life to live and entitled to his own happiness, I also respect his own freedom to do whatever he wants in his life and his freedom to be with his friends. I think it is a little bit boring too if you see each other everyday there are chances that you collide with opinions and the basis of misunderstanding. Just tell your girlfriend your priorities as a single person and not seeing everyday does not mean you did not love her anymore. Genuine love is always ruled by principle it is not a thing to be measured by frequent meeting but an affection to be looked for within your hearts. Try to explain to her that frequent exposure might lead to further misunderstanding because you always agree and disagree towards a certain thing. Your girlfriend must understand the value of your existence, you are not her prize position but a human being. Even if you are couple you need to grow as an individual.
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@atish19 (180)
• Mauritius
30 Jan 09
Thanks for understanding me. Your advise will help me a lot.
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
30 Jan 09
Do you still love her? I don't think you'll get tired of seeing the person everyday nor would think that it's a waste of time or money if you really love her. Your girlfriend might be acting childishly, I understand your sentiment. You are not financially well-off to afford everyday restaurant lunches and to be unpaid for not being able to come to work. Try to explain this to her and show that there are some things in real life that you need to do other than being together all the time. Perhaps, you can try spending quality time together several times a week rather than fighting everyday. I assume your girlfriend isn't working. Encourage her to work or find worthwhile activities so she can focus on something when you are not together. Hope you resolve your issues soon.
@atish19 (180)
• Mauritius
30 Jan 09
I tried all what you have said above but in vain. Ya i love her. Its not that i'm fed with her but she don't let me work anywhere. I have got many job offers, but because of her i refused. Then i got 1 job at night shift. This 2 i quit because i was working from 5p.m to 3a.m. And wake up at 7a.m to go and meet her. I spend quality time with her but she does not see that. I've encourage her to work but she is still waiting for a gud job. I've lost 2years not working... Its really hard. Recently we had a fight because i said that i am not coming. I just dont know what to do..
• United States
30 Jan 09
I think give her time to think about the situation. Sooner or later she'd realize that. Do what you think is right for the both of you. Tell her you are doing it for you both. You wouldn't want her to starve. good luck.
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