I think i might have a stalker. What do i do?

@Icyfairy (284)
Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
January 30, 2009 6:30pm CST
i am currently taking evening classes in business studies and there is this guy in my class who always stares at me during class. i usually ignore this and pay attention to my work. sometime last week he came over and sat next to me. i know that he talks to this girl in my class sometimes that i'm friends with so i did not switch seats. he asked me if i work at this place that's right next to where i work so i told him no i work at the place next to the place that he mentioned. after i told him he was askin me if he could come by my work so i told him that has nothing to do with me because i dont own the place. he just looked at me like he was confused. then he asked me wat my name was. i figured he wouldve found out from my friend anyway so i told him my first name. he kept asking for my last name but i didnt tell him. then he told me his full name. after that i didnt talk to him for the rest of the class. the next class which was two days later(last thursday) he told me that he has something for me and he would drop it off by the office. this was after class. i just said ok and left. then monday this week the secretary brought an envelope for me. it just had my name on it. it didnt have who it was from. when i opened it i saw it was from the guy and it contained a card and a love poem. i was really freaked out but my friend told me not to throw it away in case anything happens and i have to go to the police because it would come in handy. so left it at work. the next day when i went to class he was just staring at me and smiling. again i ignored it then he asked me if i got the thing that he send for me. so i said yes. and he said not to look so surprised. i didnt say anything. the next day, wednesday, as i was goin to work i saw him walking near to the entrance of my work place and he stopped and said hi. i said hi and walked quickly to work. then about an hour after i got a call at work and it was him. he said that he was just calling to say hi. so i told him that i do not appreciate him calling me and i do not appreciate him sending anything for me because it think its creepy and i dont like it so he must stop. then he asked it i was scared which i though was a weird question but i didnt answer, i told him goodbye and i hung up. the way i talked to him was very firm and there was no indication that i was even shaken by it. i made sure of that. thusday he didnt come to class. today i didnt go to work but when i went online my friend told me that he had come by my work. she said that he said that he was there to ask my boss about specifications for a computer but she thinks that was just an excuse. i just want to know what you guys think i should do because i really dont want this to get out of hand. i was thinking about buying a stun gun or pepper spray just so that i would have some sort of protection because class usually ends late and i have to wait on a bus to get home since i do not have a vehicle. do you think i'm being paranoid? what do you think i should do?
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3 responses
@dfollin (12780)
• United States
31 Jan 09
No,I don't think you being paranoid.He is acting like a stalker.Is your friend that you both know in the class? Is there anyone there that could wait with you while you wait for the bus or anyone you can get a ride from? Can you change to a day class? If none of these are possible then find out his name from a friend and get a peace bond on him.I would.
@Icyfairy (284)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
31 Jan 09
oh and thanks alot for your response
• France
31 Jan 09
That would freak me out....stay save and be careful. Haven't you got a big brother who could look out for you? or maybe take a taxi home so your safe
@Icyfairy (284)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
31 Jan 09
no i dont have a big brother. my mom only has girl children
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
Hmmn.. it's obvious that you don't like the guy. Well, you're not being paranoid, it's really a scareful situation for you. What you should do is, as much as possible, avoid getting alone, avoid walking and being in a place where you can see no people around, especially at night. Always be ready and alert, because he can be in front of you anytime. Yes, you can buy a protection like what you mentioned. You should always have someting that can be use as a weapon to fight him if he did a physical action. Just be more careful this time. Again, as much as possible, avoid getting alone, let a friend or friends go along with you. Take good care of yourself Icyfairy! Use your magic wand! Lol! God bless!
@Icyfairy (284)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
31 Jan 09
thanks alot for your advice. i'll be sure to do wat you mentioned because i really don't want anything bad to happen to me because of this. thanks
@raynejasper (2326)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
..hi.. maybe, the guy is inlove with you.. just ignore him if you don't suspect any bad things about him.. but if he does suspicious things, then you need to be very extra careful not to be alone.. you have to make it a point that evrytime you go out, you have a companion..
@Icyfairy (284)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
31 Jan 09
thanks for your response. i'll try to never be alone when i go out