how explain to a child that he's father abandoned him...
By eisren_04
@eisren_04 (14)
Philippines
January 31, 2009 1:58am CST
i have a friend who's a single mom. Her problem is that she doesn't know how to tell his 3 yr. old son that his father wasn't really dead (as it was taught to him by grandma)that he was abandoned since he was still inside her mother's womb....would you stick to grandma's lie,or how would you tell him the truth the simplest and easiest explanation that a child could comprehend?
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@phoenix25 (1541)
• United States
2 Feb 09
First of all, I wouldn't dream of trying to tell him at the age of 3. He is far too young to comprehend that explanation. If she wants to tell him later in life, that's a different story, but I wouldn't tell him until he was a teenager. Finding out that kind of thing can cause confusion and make a child feel like he or she wasn't wanted because maybe something was wrong with them or wasn't good enough for some reason. It's not good for a child's self-esteem to know something like that. I thing something like that would be best found out in late adolescence.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
31 Jan 09
I hate to say it, but wait until he is older to tell him what happened because there really is no simple way to tell him. My father left my mother before I was born, and my mother did not tell me until I was eight, she told me that he left, and she said that it was not my fault. At first I was mad and angry about it because I didn't have a dad, but then as I got older, I realized that I was much better off without him. Why? I saw my friends and their fathers, and their fathers were jerks. They treated their children like dirt and abused them. It was better to have no father at all then to have one that was going to abuse me.
