would you accept friendship after a split-up?

Philippines
January 31, 2009 8:04am CST
this topic can be post in friends, question and answer, love and relationship but i choose love rather. well here is my share of some question of confusing or a matter of facts that we are from us is hard to accept at all. so can you accept your partners offer after the split-up.. for me practically speaking i cant and if i can it would take time to accept that offer.. can you?
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@SwtJenlove (1090)
• United States
31 Jan 09
Im actually friends with "some" of my ex's but some i can not remain friends with. It all depends on the break up i guess. If they did you wrong and you dont think you can forgive them for what they did then there is no point in having a friendship. But, if you can forgive them then why not have a friendship.
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
hi! Yes, I can accept a friendship. But he have to give me a time, space to heal a wounded heart. Actually, I have friends who are an ex. take care
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@gbolly54 (661)
• Nigeria
31 Jan 09
Yes, why not? Once a friend, always a friend unless one suspects some foul motive. Some friendships broke up due to some errors of judgment or some other mistakes. One should always be ready to take back one's estranged friends, unless they are considered a security risk. Afterall, old friends, they say, are better than new. Moreover, a known devil could be better than an unknown saint. A girlfriend in those days dumped me twice. When she came begging for another chance (third chance, that is), I told her pointblank that I could not trust her again with my heart, but that we could just remain as friends. Up to now, after about 30 years, we have remained good friends. This has been possible with our maturity and understanding. However, such matters should be considered on a case-by-case basis. Where such "re-friendship" has a threat of disrupting our new relationships and happiness, it should not be allowed.
• Malaysia
1 Feb 09
to me that depends on why we split-up, if the situation was bad then it's probably hard. but most of the times, i'd be able to stay friends. it might be difficult at first but hey, if you cant be lovers then maybe you're better off as friends.
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
This actually happened to me and my ex-boyfriend. When we were still together, we talked about still being friends if we break up. That time did came, and we did stay friends...but we had to end the "friendship" because he was still sort of making his move on me, which was not good at that time because I already have a new boyfriend.
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@rymebristol (1808)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
yes, cause even before someone ended up in the relationship together a strong bond of friendship must first came into the picture right? it's not a good idea to give up friendship just because the relationship didn't worked out well. of course and surely that it won't happen as soon as the split up taken place, time will tell before everything is back to normal and when i say normal..like "FRIENDS".