Oh, so you think you are the parent?

United States
January 31, 2009 8:16am CST
So, who is the parent here? I've said that to my husband and his children a few times and my response is glares from all around. It just amazed and shocked me to see children starting at age 12 years old telling their parents what they are going to do. Swear at their parent, slam doors in their face, and total disrespect. That's how my husband's youngest child treats him. His older son, who always get the shaft, has more respect for his father than the younger one. That's sad and what's worse, my 15 year old son sees this and now he's trying to see what he can get away with. I'm always telling him, don't try that with me you know it work here, that will be the day my son tells me what he's going to do. He tries to give the attitude and guilt trip but it doesn't work here for me. Does anyone else go through this and would you let it happen?
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@laglen (19782)
• United States
31 Jan 09
I have a 14 year old girl and she is trying to push boundaries. I will not stand for that kind of behavior. I think that teaching respect and self respect is a big part of this. I think as parents when we get divorced or are single parenting, we tend to be more lenient out of guilt. But this is not what our kids need. They need discipline and boundaries. I don't mean abuse.
• United States
31 Jan 09
Yes, I agree and know exactly what you mean. They do need boundaries, limits, and groundation from what they really love as a form of discipline. I've seen it many times with divorced or single parents. There's no need for them to feel like that and there's no need for children to make their paretns feel like that. That's what's happening to someone I know. If the parent should say no, I've heard that child tell his parent, "well, you don't love me anymore, etc." I just can't believe the stuff this child was saying to their parent when this parent does more for the child then the parent this child lives with. Me, I would of been like, "Excuse me?!" Then I would of proceeded to name off exactly what it is I do and have done for my own son. I have no problems telling and talking to my son and correcting him, but it's amazing when you watch other children in action.