How do you feel about gate crashers?

Philippines
January 31, 2009 9:31am CST
How do you feel about people who barge in into a party uninvited? Some of these people are invited by your invitees. Say, you invited one person and she or he tends to bring the entire family. Are you comfortable with this situation? How do you deal with gate crashers? From where I came from we usually let these uninvited guest eat though we may not feel comfortable with it knowing that they are not on the list of invited people. Share your experience with gate crashers. Thanks.
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@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I know a person before that brings lots of friends when she is invited to a party or some place else. It’s a habit of hers just to make get some fun. It’s not good for me though in the name of etiquette. It would be proper to ask first and be invited properly.
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• Philippines
9 Feb 09
That is true, it would be proper to ask permission first before tagging along uninvited guest. I think there are people who likes doing it and they don't feel shy about it at all even if the party host feels bad about it. too bad!!!
@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Feb 09
Actually I have done this before. It was a new years party so I really didn't see the big deal in it. I invited a couple to go with me and my date. Turns out it wasn't such a good idea. They weren't invited for a reason! I had no idea no one liked them. When we were always with a group no one seemed to show their dislike for them, they always talked with them and joked with them. But I guess it turned out they were being to faced. I heard nothing but rumors about them after that party, not so good rumors. Things that they said or something they did that no one liked or how they should have kept their mouth shut. I felt so bad for them! I also wondered what people were saying about me for bringing them there in the first place. I have never again done that! If I have a party it doesn't bother me if people bring other people, I look at it the more the merrier! I guess not every one can have opens arms like I do.
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• Philippines
3 Feb 09
I can see that you are a very kind-hearted person and you love sharing what you have with others but not everyone does my friend. sorry to hear that your other friends were not so happy you tagging along some friends to her or their party. Thanks for sharing tour experience and happy mylotting!!!
@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
1 Feb 09
Hi my friend, this is totally our headaches too when I was in our country. I just don't understand why people in there are not embarrass to take other people with them when they are invited? and also the uninvited, they have they have guts to come knowing that they are not on the list? I understand also the feelings of the host because that is our Filipino custom, to let the people eat even if it is against our will sometimes but we don;t want to be rude to embarrass anybody on the party because we will also the headline of the news.. ahahahah I know that. I think the best thing to do is to be FRANK to all the invited guests that the party is exclusive for the invited people only because the food is limited. am sure they will understand that or else they will be ashamed if their they will tag somebody and they won't be able to eat. hahahaha
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
Wheeew... they are really a pain in the neck. this may sound bad of me but at times if I know someone who tends to tag another person along and he or she is known for hat I just tend not to invited that person. I know this is bad but I can't help it for i know someone who doesn't really listen even if it was already agreed upon. It would be fine that the person that was tag along can't eat but but if it was another invited guest that wasn't able to eat? it would really be bad.
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• United States
31 Jan 09
Well, for one when I have a party I get nice little cards. You can get them cheap at the $1.00 store. And, when you give them to someone you want to invite you word it so that you say YOU are invite to said party. And, then say RSVP and also let them know on the card that it is a private party or they may bring one friend or no kids or what ever. But, make it sound that it just for them because they are special. And, then if they don't RSVP then don't invite them in. Say I'm sorry I did not know you where coming you did not RSVP so, I did not set a place for you. Or, if they bring others just say I'm sorry you did not mention that you where bring said ppl I did not set a place for them or make enough food. But, no I would not let them in my house. I would be polite but firm. And, if they get mad to bad they are old enough to read the invite then they should know better... Next, time you invite them they will think twice! If they just don't except the invite that is their problem not yours! ** Peace and Love get's you through everything in Life **
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• Philippines
1 Feb 09
Thanks for the tips that you have given here this would be very helpful the next time i host a party. It is just making any host crazy if someone tags along and that person wasn't included on the invited list. Good if there was extra food prepared but if it is only enough them it really is making me crazy that not everyone can eat. Thanks a lot for sharing and Happy Mylotting!!!
• India
31 Jan 09
no i just hate those people these are the people who just come into parties and are also uninvited these people will beg their other friends who are invitees to take them along with them these people just go to parties and mess up stuff they just make you feel embarassed and you feel that you will never come to such parties ever again.i once saw this incident i was attending a party once and there a gate crasher came he just got drunked and started getting touching with the birthday girl the girl's borther gotvery angry and he just threw him out of the party the girl was so embarrased she just broke into tears i hope this never happens to one of my hosted parites i just hope nad i wish this gate crashers stop doing this nonsense stuff
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
I can relate to on how you feel with these uninvited guess. One of the worries of the host is the food. having unexpected guest on a party is really scary especially if the food prepared is only for the number of guest that you were expecting of. I am so sorry for that birthday girl for her special day become a traumatic day for her. too bad!!!
@laglen (19782)
• United States
31 Jan 09
We used to crash weddings when I was a teen ager. If somebody crashed my party, as long as they don't cause trouble and we have enough refreshments, I wouldn't say anything.
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
thanks for sharing your thoughts. well i guess you doesn't mind since you have been doing that before. LOL. Btw, when you were gate crashing wasn't there any embarrassing moments on those crashing days. like you were asked for and invitation or you were not dress well of the occasion? I am just curious. LOL. Please share.