having kids

United States
January 31, 2009 11:28am CST
My husband wants to have children. I am not to keen on the subject. When we firts got married we were on the same page. Now he has changed his mind. I don't think I want to. Please give me stories or addvice on the subject. I am not sure I am ready to have children. The thought scares me.
1 response
@Jlyn22 (204)
• United States
1 Feb 09
Ill tell you what our officiant told us at our pre marial counsling we went to. If a woman doesnt want children and the man does and the woman has one just to please the man then she will most likely become a bad mother cause she never wanted one so she wont have the same bond with the child as she would if she really wanted it in the first place. And he also told us half the time if a woman has a child just cause the man wants one the relatonship usualy fails after the child is born. He told us a story of a couple who were like that and the husband was the only one who took care of the child cause the woman didnt want anything to do with it since she never wanted kids and even though they were madly in love the got divorced cause of the child.