Do you know anyone that never wants to talk about you on the phone?

United States
February 1, 2009 5:41pm CST
My mother calls me several times a weekend usually. And it's always the same type of phone call. She wants to tell me about her week, what she has done, that sort of thing. She never asks how my week went, if classes are going well, that kind of thing. I spent 30 minutes listening to her talk about her car troubles, how much it cost to fix said car and what she was going to do in the event of the impending bad weather this coming week. The only thing I really said the entire phone call was uh huh, uh huh and yeah. She wonders why I get so frustrated with her sometimes. She doesn't get why I can't stand speaking to her on the phone. Well, that's why. She only wants to talk about herself and doesn't care much about how I'm doing. Do you know anyone that does this? Do you at least get to say anything other than one or two words are do you even get to say anything at all?
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@dodo19 (32885)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
1 Feb 09
I know exactly how you feel. I always have the conversations with my parents, as you do with your mother. With my dad, it's always about his research, his business travels, and with my mom, it's always about work, and such. The other night, I was talking to my mom, I asked her a question, and she ended up talking to me about that, for like 20-30 minutes, non-stop. And a lot of times, I get the exact same reaction, when I talk to my dad. It's been like that for quite some time. It's really frustrating. I know exactly how you feel. I get the same reaction from my parents as you do with your mother.
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• United States
1 Feb 09
Well it's good to know that I am not the only person that deals with this kind of thing. It is rather annoying listening to them talk and talk and talk and you just want to know why they can't ask about someone else for once.
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@dodo19 (32885)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
1 Feb 09
I know. Sometimes, I can't help but ask myself why they even call. I know they want to hear from me and such, but if they're going to talk on and on about them, it just seems pointless to call me.
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
1 Feb 09
sounds like the roomie's mom, but she says its worse since her mom's stroke a few years ago
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@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
1 Feb 09
Wow!!!! I thought I was the only one!!!! My Mom is the exact same way. Only she can go on for an hour or more!!!What I have learned over the years, is that Moms do care. But, somehow don't want to hear you say anything to upset them. If I try to tell my mother I am not feeling well, she says "OH?". Does not wait for an answer and goes on to tell me something else. Oh yes this can get very frustrating at times. But then again, it's my Mom. Let her be happy, as long as she is happy I am happy. My Mom is almost 75 years old. It has gotten worse. First I could still get something said. Know I start to tell her something and in the middle of my story she says she has to go. But, I feel better, knowing I am not alone with this situation. There have been times when I thought it was me?? What is it about how I talk?? hahahaha! That is life. Take care, don't worry about it, as long as your Mom is happy things are great. After all, she is your Mom.
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@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
2 Feb 09
I just read the upper two comments. Thanks for starting this conversation. It really is nice to know we are not alone with this. It seems like, it is a normal situation. Take care.
• United States
2 Feb 09
Yep, it definitely is nice knowing we are in completely normal situations!
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@Margajoe (4720)
• Germany
4 Feb 09
Ja, I think so too. Happy mylotting.
@coorgi (4)
• India
2 Feb 09
yes, my son calls me every morning who is staying away from me for his studies and only talks about himself and his need for money and his problems and his friends and his studies and his internals etc. he never allow me to talk at all.So everyday i am finding an opportunity to tell about me but in vain. He never allowed me to talk at all i always listen to him.
• United States
2 Feb 09
I've got a daughter that does the same thing. She would call and talk on and on about herself or the trouble that her and her husband were having. Like you and the rest she would never ask me how I was doing or any other thing. Well I got tired of it and told my son how I felt about it when he called one day. My son and I talk about anything, so the next time my daughter called she made sure that she asked how I was doing and carried an a conversation with me.
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• Canada
2 Feb 09
I find this unbelievable, really. What kind of parent doesn't phone up her kid and not want to find out first all about how they are doing before talking about herself? There must be a really big chunk missing from the relationship. If I were a kid with a mom like you describle, I'd get tough with her and say, "Look, mom, I'm really busy now". Then tell her you'll call her back when you have some time and hang up. If you interrupt her and cut it short every time she starts a long story she will get the message.
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@AmbiePam (49102)
• United States
2 Feb 09
Oh yes. My sister is like that too. And since she has always been a fast talker, a person really has to work to get a word in. Lately she has let me get in a word or two. But nothing serious. She absolutely won't listen to me talk about say a health problem, or something to do with a friend in trouble. She cuts me off and changes the subject. But she feels free to tell me what is going wrong in her life. I'm used to it. But if my mom were the one doing it, that would be worse. I count on my mom way more than my sister.
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@ashjoe76 (1434)
• India
22 Feb 09
That's a difficult situation for sure. I had a friend who used to do this. She had some difficulties in her life, so I thought I would let her talk about herself. But sometimes it was too lengthy a conversation where I rarely got a chance to say anything. It used to annoy me a bit, but I tried not to take it too seriously because I knew that she had a difficult life and sometimes she was considering me as her sole friend.
@bunnybon7 (36529)
• Holiday, Florida
15 Feb 09
i have a couple of friends and family members like that. i also have some that get on my nerves firing questions at me. like people that ask you a question, then before your finished answering that one they say yes but" so on and so on?" and you feel like your being interigated both are very annoying
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
15 Feb 09
Are you sure we don't know the same people. It is that way with me to. Not exactly that way with my mom but it is with my sister,nieces, and sister in laws. Usually I let them talk but when I want to talk about whats going on in my life or my problems after they just laid their out on my shoulders they suddenly have to go or something like changing the subject like they are the only ones allowed to talk about their problems and what is going on in their life. It saddens me alot and makes me mad but stupidly I still continue to do it.
• United States
2 Feb 09
That would annoy me big time. I guess you could not take all of her phone calls, that would give her the hint. Of course maybe you're the only one she can talk to without talking back.
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
my dear, have you read what you just wrote? listen to yourself. you are like telling us already the reason why you don't want your mother calling you and blabbering her daily routines, it is because you do not want to listen, you are like your mom,too. you want to be heard. maybe, the problem is that you just don't want to listen and all you want is to talk. remember, she is your mom and mommies do miss their kids. you will know this when you yourself will be needing someone who will listen to you. it is their way of communicating with you and telling you that they miss you so much. i don't have any beef with you, just think about it.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
2 Feb 09
there are few. I had a friend. initially he used to talk so much on phone. Even if I trued to say Good bye, he would continue. Later he started avoiding me. so he used to avoid speaking on phone.