Time to move on....???
February 3, 2009 9:39pm CST
I've done some serious thinking the past couple of weeks. My fiancee and I temporarily split up, but we both knew that we were getting back together. Well, he got into a fight with one of our neighbors (who came to our house brandishing a gun) and is now being charged with malicious wounding. That's a Class 3 felony in Virginia which carries a five to twenty year sentence. He goes to court on the 20th of this month for the prelim hearing, and then they will set the actual trial from there. He is leaving me with our 12-month-old daughter, and I am due to have our son in about 7 weeks. I'm scared and I'm hurt. I know that he is, too. I just don't know what to do. I don't want to be one of those women who leave their man in a time of need, but nor do I want to be a "prison wife". I know that I can manage the children...I also have 2 from a previous marriage, and I was a single mom for them before Josh and I met. Is there a way that I can be there for him, yet not put my life on hold? I can't put a stop to everything because the kids need me. I can't let myself get depressed because the kids need me. I need to get on with my life, but I can't leave him. I know that if we're meant to be together, then we will. But I also know that I don't want to be with anyone else...ever. He is my soul mate. What do I do? I pray and pray and pray. I just don't have anyone else to turn to.
• United States
4 Feb 09
That is a difficult situation, and I feel for you. I think that you should see what happens after the hearing. Wait until you know for sure what the future holds for him - he may get off. Also, wait until you have your son, and then see how you feel. See your fiance through his immediate troubles, and then reevaluate where you stand. Good luck to you.